Is it ok to believe in yourself and trust yourself?

Question:

I was raised that 'you don't really feel that' or 'WE don't do that!!' with a shocked gasp. I grew up being told what to feel and do. I have chosen a totally different life than my parents and have learned what my OWN thoughts and opinions are. But in the back of my head I still think paraniod thoughts that were used to control me in the past. Thoughts that I could kill someone if I made just one wrong decision. Or that my children could be in danger or grow up to hate me, if I don't listen and do what other people say and pay attention to what they think of me. That I will be an unloved person if I don't listen to people that hurt me and take all cristism to heart. With the self growth I have had, I am learning that my feelings are to be trusted. That my thoughts are not my enemy. That I AM OK just the way I am. Just the way I am, I am loveable!! So is it ok to trust yourself? Could one wrong move really kill someone, or should I let go of paranioa?

Answers:
Living in fear is a whole "style" of life. It can be learned. It can be taught. Anything resembling this will result in your kids taking on some of these tendancies...which is good if you want to raise scared children.

People who do this "to us" learned it from someone else. Breaking the cycle is not easy. The establishment (media, politicians, etc.) all have a vested interest in you being scared...VERY scared.

The more frightened I can make you, the more liberty I can seize, in the name of keeping you "safe" from the boogyman.

Raising a strong spirited, self reliant individual requires that you step outside of these spoon-fed belief systems that the elitists encourage and support. Your parents were victims of their surroundings and you can easily claim the same excuse.

Challenge yourself for the good of your offspring. Don't buy into the mentality that creates throngs of "entitled" people who "can't" do for themselves.

You already know all this too, dear!

:-)

No, you can't kill somebody with one wrong decision. I don't even know how that could happen... But no, live your own life, let go of this paranioa, make your own mistakes, and do what you want. Oh, and pray about it too, God can help you let go of this paranioa.

Relax.

I reccomend you read the book Conversations with God for teens.

I think it is great that you love yourself just the way you are. That is what everyone wants to be like. YOU GO GIRL!!

That depends if you behavior is generally good and you are well-intentioned. If yes, then you probably can trust your judgement. If not sure, try to imagine a caring person you could never embarass, and in your mind what would that person's response be to your intuition.

you sound like you want to be a good person. if so just be yourself and believe in you.trust yourself and do the right things. we all make mistakes. if you think you need help dont be ashamed to ask for it. love you everyone else will.

i had a similar background. believing in and trusting yourself is healthy, as long as it's not to the extreme that you think you don't need God.

can our mistakes kill others? well, yes...drunk driving is one example. we all make mistakes because we are human. as long as i have good intentions, i can live with myself and sleep soundly at night.

God bless.

I think your parents may have had some insecurity issues, and sad enough they dumped that on you. I think if you don't trust yourself then you'll never figure out who you are. That could really do damage too, if you never find yourself. It doesn't matter what people think of you, all that matters is your family is happy and healthy. Advice is okay, but don't take everything to heart. Do what your gut tells you and you'll do fine. Being controlled is no way to live your life. It's not healthy for you. So I think if you take how your parents controlled you as a lesson never to do that to your child, I think you'll be fine. Of course if your child is going to harm them self then take control, but as of life in general let them figure out who they are. You've done no harm to yourself or your life by taking control of it, so I would try and let the past go. If you need some assistance, a therapist would be helpful. I've been going, and had similar up bringing and it's helped me over come it. Keep your head up I think your doing just fine. Good luck and best wishes!

If you can not love yourself, who will?

If you treat yourself badly, how will you treat others.

Be you. Be comfortable with yourself. Others have the gift of life and live by their own rules.

Choose to live by yours. Ignore what others say are the rules you should choose.

They live in their own head with their own ideas, their own vision of the world.

They can never know what your world is like.
Make your own rules.

And teach your children to live by theirs so that they too can be independent and productive.

Read my articles.
http://themeaningisyou.com

Step off the curb, and the bus driver swerves to miss you. He ends up rolling the bus, and 3 kids are killed, and 7 of them suffer broken backs and are quadriplegics for life.

Yes, one wrong move *can* have significant consequences.

Generally, though, paranoia is about others conspiring to harm you, rather than your actions accidently harming others.

But if you find yourself unloveable, others will generally pick up on your attitude, and decide that if anyone knows the truth about yourself, you certainly do.

I'm willing to concede that there are truly evil persons in this world, and there are truly incompetent persons, either of which would pose a threat to my health and well-being, but you strike me as simply lacking self-esteem.

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