I am having a bad life, what to do with it.?
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If you have any of these for more than two weeks, seek help. Diagnosing yourself is very difficult, so please don't wait until it gets so bad that you can't function.
Feeling sad and/or depressed most of the time
Loss of interest in doing the things that you love (hobbies, exercise, friends and family, career)
Loss of motivation
Changes in sleep (excessive sleeping, not able to fall asleep, not able to stay asleep, waking up too early)
No energy, easily fatigued
Appetite change (excessive eating, or loss of appetite)
Weight loss or gain (without trying)
Difficulty making decisions
Unable to remember things (forgetfulness)
Fuzzy thinking (unable to think clearly)
Negative thoughts (there is a mean voice in your head that won't be quiet, and it is so loud you can't hear anything else)
Negative attitude (everybody and everything is wrong and stupid)
No self worth
Low self-esteem
Very sensitive and easily hurt
Crying easily or can't cry at all
Circular thinking (going around in your head without any resolution)
Feelings of anger
Feelings of guilt
Social isolation (avoiding your friends and family on the telephone and social situations)
Anxiety (I didn't realize I was having anxiety attacks, and suffering from acute anxiety for a long time. Depression and anxiety are linked)
Pain in your body with no cause. (aches in joints, muscles, strange places - real pain, but difficult to attribute to anything)
Worrying about your health
Headaches
Avoiding seeing the doctor
"Catastrophising" (I know it is not a word, but it is where you think the worst all the time, e.g.: if someone is late, it is not because they got stuck in traffic, but instead because they have had a horrible accident, or, the pain in your leg is not a symptom of depression, but instead is bone cancer)
Feelings of hopelessness
Unable to imagine that life/the future will ever be different, that you will ever feel different
Reduced or no interest in sex
Hate waking up in the morning
Anxiety dreams
Thoughts of suicide*
Feeling restless
Feeling nervous and uneasy
Mood swings and irritability (one minute you are yelling and the next you are crying)
Easily Overwhelmed
Good Luck and BIG HUGS!!
You sound like you already know the answer...you are the only one who can change your fate. Join clubs that interest you to make new friends. get your resume out there or talk to your boss about more motivating assignments. Life is very short and will be gone before you know it...
Well you live in LA and have some family around to support you. That's good. Luckily you're in one of the most populated cities and the chances of you finding a "life" is good. But don't make the mistake of thinking you only have a "life" if you have a boyfriend/husband. Get yourself a job where you get to meet alot of different people. Try working in a bar or restaurant or even one of the studios there. You're sure to find a whole mix of people that way and can get yourself out there and find out what you like and what you want. The worst thing to do though is to sit at home and do nothing. Make friends and take care of you first and get yourself together financially before you add a boyfriend to the mix that way when you do meet a guy you won't be so emotionally needy and clingy and drive him away.
So your life is bad!
But is it really?
You need to mourn your sister.
But, I'll bet you she would not want you to stop living altogether. You are the one still left to cope with life.
Go out and join clubs where you can socialize.
Go take a course to improve your job prospects.
Be more friendly at work and do more than your share.
Turn one of your dreams into action.
Forgive your parents. They won't live forever. And they probably raised you to the best of their abilities.
Forgiveness is as much for you as for them.
Be grateful for what you have.
http://themeaningisyou.com
There's a good book out called "Real Magic" by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer. It teaches you how to be happy, healthy, successful and prosperous in daily life through positive thinking and action. Perhaps you can get some good ideas from it. Good Luck!
Hi Sprite,
That's a cool username. I suggest joining a church and giving your life to the Lord. This is not a quick fix but it's an easy option and there are many benefits, friends, focus, eternal life and Jesus alwasy on your side.
Trust me, It helps greatly to my enjoyment of life.
Best of luck and kind regards,
Barry H
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