I have difficulty talking with people from my past, interested in some advice!?
Question:
I am asking this from a mental health perspective. I have severe anxiety/fears about seeing or talking with people from my past be it old friends or their parents. I wont ever answer my cell phone or return calls. It hasnt always been like this and I assume somethings that have happened in the past(4-5 yrs ago) have seriosuly affected me. I also have problems having conversations with women.
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I think you have anxiety problems which have gotten worse over the past few months or years. So in trying to track down one specific incident or incidents that make you afraid to talk to them is not the answer coz you won't find it. Anxiety-related problems sometimes tend to worsen as time goes by. Generally, in such cases, It starts with small anxieties and because you wish to aviod those situations (so you won't feel anxious), you create a pattern of behavior or life-style where you're avoiding more and more things (and people) because you anticipate feeling tremendous anxiety. It's a vicious cycle. Consult a psychologist or counsellor who will help you get over your fears. Good luck.
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I have the same problem. Are you depressed? Have you been diagnosed with Anxiety/Panic disorder? This can cause you to have problems in social situations. I think you should go to your DR. They will be able to help by putting you on a low dose of anti anxiety medication.
I know what your going through and it is a terrible feeling. If it goes on too long you will start to feel lonely. Please take my advice and talk to your regular DR>
I hope you feel better and things start looking up! I am behind you on this!
You're probably at a different place in your life now and would prefer to not look back because of events that unfolded. I am the same.. I would avoid certain people at all costs because I don't want to put myself in that situation. As far as talking to women, you need to practise that's all, I'm sure it can be intimidating but you have to get over yourself. People are just energies.. male, female.. who cares. Just because you talk to a woman doesn't mean you should be trying to get into her pants (sorry.. but yah). Try befriending a woman... and leave it as that.. you will only befriend her and see a beautiful friendship blossom; you can talk to women as you do talk to men, just don't swear.
I had that same problem too. Only I talk to them on myspace. I live 2000 miles away from everyone I used to talk to. They have found me on myspace, and in the beginning I had a lot of trouble starting conversations where I felt comfortable. I know myspace may seem different then talking on the phone, but it isn't. I have anxiety as well, but I go to therapy and it's helped a lot. I just bring up past memories, and the conversation is easy. Some of them I still have trouble talking too, but its because we had a falling out years ago and it's still weird. I don't really care though, because the ones I have grown close to again are the ones I wish to still be friends with. My trouble with talking to them was being in a comfortable conversation, and talking how it used to be and how I used to know them has made it easy. It may be different to you, and it may be helpful to talk to a therapist about it. It's possible you didn't like who you were when you knew them. Good luck to you and best wishes!!
If that's the case, if you just didn't like who you were and you've changed your ways. I would either be honest with them, and tell them you've changed. I've done that, and you'd be suprised at how many people have changed as well.
The ones that haven't I still say hi to, but I don't go any further then that because I don't like to remember that. Or it's okay just to pick up the phone, and tell them your busy. I don't think you have anything wrong with you. It's perfictly normal to have these feelings when you weren't happy the way your life was. Just keep your head up!
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