Anybody with BPD experience sexual identity issues?
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Yup- you are on the island with a whole lot of us. Just like there's the whole bipolar spectrum, there's also the whole sexuality spectrum you can fall within that, and when you're manic, ALL rules go out the window. Like me, for example - BPII (dx '03, med compliant ever since) - I would say I'm straight as far as relationships go, but I am turned on by women still and, when single, and especially if I'm starting to cycle up a little/getting a little manicky, I prefer doing some no-strings messing around with women rather than men. Before I was diagnosed and medicated, I was confused with my sexual identity much like yourself and thought I was bisexual. Once I started learning about bipolar and the spectrums we can fall between, and the meds started leveling me out, I started to understand that it's really just a characteristic of being hypomanic/manic that makes us really sexually adventurous, sometimes to the point of being promiscuous and taking stupid risks that could endanger our health. We just like to get dirty, and virtually everyone and everything can turn us on. Just keep seeing your pdoc (i'm assuming you have one), keep taking your meds, BE SAFE EVERY TIME you have ANY kind of sex, and you will be fine.
Sounds as if you are bipolar and biseuxal.
Take your medication and cease wondering and worrying about your sexual tastes as to be honest, the rest of us really do not care who you are sleeping with. Except for those pointy headed people who make it their business to worry about what everyone else is doing...
Just make a decision and stay with it. This will solve your prob. Hang tough. Works for me.
Are you taking medication to regulate your mood? The right one should help manage the extreme mood swings. I don't think the attraction to both genders is at all unusual (though most people aren't willing to admit it), the only unusual thing would be if your mood problems cause you to act out on sexual attractions in a dangerous or regrettable way.
i can speak from the experience of a close friend. when you are manic you behavior may not represent your true preferences. when people are manic they experience heightened sexuality and some people are so horny and aroused that they just want sex with anyone and will sometimes have all sorts of encounters. i hope you are getting therapy and medication b/c the dangers of being manic with uncontrollable sexual urges are dangerous since the chances of you engaging in unsafe sex becomes so great.
take care of yourself. many people are able to manage this condition.
If you're a human being, you can be sure that you are not on that island alone.
Sometimes young people go through a period of confusion, too. This shouldn't stress you out so much- it's not a disorder. Your hormones are going nuts, but your head is not going to pop off. Relax. Don't be in such a rush to 'identify' with anything.
Ummmm.. I have this friend..who when he is manic enough would do anyone with a pulse. Sometimes the pulse is optional..
I also have a gay friend who does alot of married guys who want to get off anyway possible. And those are "normal" guys!
No one is 100% anything I don't care what they say, But whatever floats your boat is cool as long as no one is hurt.
Maybe it just depends on the type of fun your into at the moment? Girls and guys are different experiences.
I personally change color preferences, Blue eyes no brown. Latinas, black girls, asians, whatever I find attractive that week so I think maybe these things change with mood.
God Im rambling Ill shut up now
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