I think im depressed or something. sleep but still tired..?
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I have been away from home b4 for a year (til may 20, 07)when i studied abroad and felt so much better since i didnt have anyone telling me when i had to get back home, i felt more confident and happy then.
Now that im back i feel depressed again and like i need to get away. But for now i have 2 more semesters to go b4 i get my B.A. in the meantime im trying to plan and see what im going to do, maybe get a job and someday move out bc living at home doesnt make me happy.
My parents r the type that expect me 2 stay with them until i get married and 2 help them bc they have helped me financially up until now. I dont want 2 be selfish and do plan 2 help them when i make money (hopefully soon) but dont want 2 live at home nemore...i dont know what to do, ive been lazy lately, sleeping til 2pm n i just dont know whats wrong with me. any ideas? aye
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yeah dude i do! I went through this... Let me tell ya, if you want freedom and noone to yell at you: then don't get married!! You have to take charge of your life! So what you're still in school? Get a job! Work and go to school at night.. People do it.. you might could even finish the last few classes online.. once you get a job then moveout.. if you want to be grown up then be grown up.. My only warning is this.. once you take charge and become grown up...there's no turning back!
When I had my most severe depressive episode, I slept all day, everyday.
If this has been going on for more than two weeks, it really could be depression. Can you make an appointment to see a doctor. Tell them all your symptoms so they can make a diagnosis. My depression has gotten much better since I've been on the right treatment.
where are your family from because mine were the same way. i am 23 now and have been living on my own for a little over a year. u want to know how i did it? i accepted a job hundred of miles away. i luv my parents, as i know you do, but it can be tough grown yet being told what to do so stick it out for a while, and don't worry you will be doing your own thing at your own time and they will learn to accept it. it took a while for my parents to accept it...they had to come visit me, and see that i was holding up well on my own you know? now we they dont even bother me anymore. they trust my choices and decisions, and ur paretns are trying to do just that.
as far as sleeping until 2 pm, not good for you. get up early and go for exercise or chill with friends or something. the more you sleep the more tired you get, and the more you'd want to sleep. dont do that to yourself. read a book or something. good luck
Grow up, get a life, and move out of mommy's house
You are still young enough that enduring your present situation for two semesters seems like a long time. Just do your best to get your B.A. and, in the meantime, keep busy with friends and family or job or whatever else you like.
All too often life slips by so quickly that the ones we love are gone before we realize it. Why not take the time to focus on your parents as people instead of authority figures who set curfews? You could use this time to get to know them better. You might be surprised and enjoy knowing a lot of facts about their lives when they were your age. If you could treat them like favorite friends and be courteous, loving and encourage them to share happy moments with you, they might show you a personality difference you've not discovered up to now.
At any rate, the time will go faster than you expect if you can find something happy to think about or do until you are out on your own again. I hope you rest up and feel better soon.
Well, you seem depressed and it seems like this can be cured by moving out and moving on with your life. You need to decide how far away from your parents you need to live in order to feel happy about your decision.
It is important that your parents understand that there is more to life than money. While you will be spending money that could be saved had you lived with your parents, you are in essence paying "tuition" to learn how to live on your own and how to grow up. Also you feel good when you are able to take care of yourself.
The bit about your parents having helped you financially does not mean that you are obligated to return the favor, however, it will be nice if you do. Parents help children financially and your obligation is to help your children in the same way you were helped.
It might be a good idea to take depression medication during this upcoming year, so your grades are not affected. You can hang up a sign entitled, "Days to Graduation" and list the number of days left until the special day. Every day, cross off a day so you can see that you are making progress toward your goal.
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