I dont know what to do about them... ADVICE PLEASE?

Question:

I have these 2 friends & they are on again off again dateing. They have a daughter together & when things R good there great. But lately they have been fighting non stop & they have "broken up" again. Where I come in 2 this is at 1 point I had this thing with the guy (OVER) & I was (I thought) friends with the girl. But she treats me like **** & uses me, & I know she does, but when she calls me 4 help because something has happened with her guy, just when I think she is out of my life 4 good, i can't help but feel for her & want to help her, even when I want never 2 see her again. I like her guy because he is nice 2 me, but she is a Bi*ch. I don't want to talk to her, I want her out of my life, but I don't know how 2 do it. Everytime I think she is gone she calls because he guy has done something stupid & they have had another fight... What do I do to get her out of my life?? I can't stand her insulting me & picking fights with me because I don't want 2 something 4 her. & she does..

Answers:
I don't think you can confront her without a huge blowout. The best thing you could do is just not answer the phone when she calls and don't return the messages. If you see her out or she comes over, act detached (not rude) and if she wants to know why you haven't returned her calls, tell her how busy you've been with (a, b, c, - have your list ready). If she knows you have been in contact with her bf, especially since you have a past with him, she may accuse you of betraying her by going back to him. At this point, it will be difficult to explain why he is worth your time and she is not. Option one is to distance yourself from him too, Option two is to be honest and say "I hang out with him because he doesn't put me in the middle of all this drama and stress me out." You're in a difficult situation, and whatever you decide will take time.

y do u wanna die?

cut her off completely

just dont answer the phone.

Become an honest instead of dishonest person. Tell her you do not have time for her since you have more important things in your life to do. Although maybe you have nothing to do in your life. See site below and read short article about you and becoming happier.

Get away from both of them, and don't sleep with the guy. You didn't sleep with the guy, did you?

tell staight to her face that u want nothing to do with her and that your sick of her being 2-faced and if that doesnt stop her ignore her! and tell her guy that he needs to open his eyes and see that its not gonna work so he should just give it up! hope i've helped and i hope ur situation gets better!

Then it is time to make sure that it is over. When she calls, you have to be strong and tell her that she needs to live her own life and deal with what comes along especially since it is her relationship with her boyfriend. They cannot continue to use you as a buffer because they will never be able to handle their relationship if they continue this way. They have to be responsible for their actions, and you need to live your own life. This is not your fight, and as you can see from the pattern, you will always be pulled in the middle of this unless you stand up and say no.

This is within your power to fix especially for yourself, and you have to communicate this to both of them and then take yourself out of the picture by not responding anymore. Do you think they would keep calling you if you didn't help?

I dont know what to do about them... ADVICE PLEASE?

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