Older Brother... Lives at Home... Concerned Little Sister??

Question:

My older brother is a junior in college and recently moved back home. He says his reasons for moving home were that he was lonely, and having a rough time, he couldnt get work dont, and he wanted to be closer to me to "guide" me. Im concerned because at the age of 20 I think that he should be living at college (which is only 1 1/2 hours away) and meeting new people, joining groups, and living the college experience. He isnt able to concentrate when he's at home. He also makes a totally unnecessary 2 hour commute by train back and forth every day. I understand his fear of being lonely because I also share that fear, however I think that he is becoming accustomed to running home and relying on my parents. My parents fund most of his expenses and my mom still does his laundry and cleans his room... Dont think that I am just the materialistic sister who likes her quiet and wants her bathroom back... I love my brother to death, but Im afraid that him living here might be more harm than good

Answers:
Accept his reason for moving back home and enjoy his company. When he is ready, he will move out. Family is very important and I know of a few people who have no one . You are blessed to have your parents and your brother.

I agree. Just live your life and have your friends and don't hang out with him. You don't need his "guidance." He's an adult and he needs to start acting like it--and that doesn't mean mommy cleaning up after him and him pestering his little sister for company.

There was an ad beside your question that said, "Depression Is Real." Maybe he's depressed, and needs some of his homies to help him get through a rough patch. Or. He could just be like that one guy said.

My son moved back home after being in jail. He is 33. He seems to be hanging on to Mom and Dad too. (He was only in 3 months) He used to be a resposible boy and got into trouble for something stupid that happened one night of drinking. Anyway, they need to move on cause Mom and Dad wont be around forever to depend on. if I were your Mom, I would make him do his own things.
I learned the hard way. Tell your Mom to let him "grow up" or he will always be looking for someone to depend on.
I think part two is cause they are depressed. My son is now in counseling and taking meds(temp). Maybe big brother needs the same.

Oh honey, in my 48 yr. old eyes, he's still a baby! It's not he dropped out of college. He does do the commute! He is just not ready to "fly away" yet. I hope your'e not makin' him feel stupid or anything because he does come home. Don't worry, you'll have the B.R. to yourself soon enough, I'm sure. He is lonely and scared. You do your part in "guiding" him. Make sure he feels needed and an important part of the family. Ok?

Older Brother... Lives at Home... Concerned Little Sister??

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