Desperate for Advice. I feel.different, weird. Do my emotions have a mind of their own?
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Yet, I'm glad I'm alive and I have wonderful friends, family and I'm dating a wonderful man. I've tried to think of why I've been feeling "sad" or "confused" and I've come up with a few different things. I don't see my friends enough, I've started thinking about how miserable college is and I'll have to go back in a month (I commute), and lately I've even thought that maybe my boyfriend and I aren't right for each other. Although I rarely see my friends because of our wacky work sched.s I've ruled that out and I truely am madly in love with my boyfriend. College does make me miserable but has it reached the point to where I'm miserable because I know I have to go back? In a month?? I'm only miserable because I haaate getting up at 6am drivin an hour and going to classes all day, comin home to work, then goin home to do hw then sleep and REPEAT. Also, Im pretty much bankrupt
I guess what I'd really like to know is, how do I make it better?
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It sounds more like stress than depression to me. Stress can often make you feel out of sorts and even somewhat depressed. The thought of summer ending and having to get back in your old routine probably has played a big part in how you feel. However being female can also play a part in it. Often stress can trigger hormonal changes in a womens body that can also affect how we feel. My suggestion would be take a multivitamin designed for women, get plenty of rest and in between all the routine and hectic schedules find small ways in which to relax. I personally love a good bubble bath while reading a book (fun one not school work)
pray. and talk tome i can help u thru cuz hey i am penniless too dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. i will be like a moral support.
We all go through a hard time in college. I worked my *** off for good grades and couldn't hold down a part-time job or a boyfriend because I was afraid my grades would slip.
All I can say is patience, grasshopper. Patience pays off.
Have you ever considered it is bi-polar disorder? Go here: http://www.isitreallydepression.com/mini...
You can take time off school to decide. don't put the world on your shoulders, hun.
You have many good years to decide what it is you need.
getting up early is hard for me too, I hate it. that doesn't make me irresponsible. I take care of my own.
btw, helping others, and going to things like volunteer work helped me a lot. It's coming down to earth, and seeing what is really happening to others, feeling empathy, and helping out that helps *you* to know yourself.
spend time in nature too. take a hike, and go camping.
Good luck!
I am guessing that this is situational depression.. and you can change it. The biggest thing you need to do is take control of your own thoughts. anything negative that you think, give it some thought and change it to positive. I know it can be hard to do but as you think more positively, you will feel better about yourself. You may also wish to increase your vitamin B levels as well... they have some at the health food stores that are combined already to help boost your energy levels.. these may help some. Try reading the book by Louise Hay called YOU CAN HEAL YOUR LIFE. She has some awesome ways of explaining things to help you feel better... some meditations to do to help you feel refreshed and ready to go.I can't say enough good things about the book. I have used it myself. I have been in your spot.. and in worse spots as well and the book has helped me in so many ways. And if you ever need to talk, contact me .. . I am happy to listen and try to help you if I can.
I am in no way qualified for giving you any medical/psychological advices. But with common sense, you sounded like you need a break. You don't need to spend a lot of money to relax and enjoy the moment. Go hiking somewhere that you could breath fresh air and stare at blue sky for hours. Go swimming in a town pool/lake, tune to "America's funniest home video(it chased away my dark cloud of depression once), etc.
And don't forget, tens of millions of people in this world don't have 1/100 of what you have.
Be serious and ask your self what can you do to better your life.Ask God for strength to help you reach your goal, Above all you must stop whining...All you have to do is make your self accept the things you have and let go of the things you can not change. Do some thing instead of just asking why? why? why? God be with you always...
Sounds alot like aniexty/ depression. When you have so many things going on at once its hard to have time for yourself. I went through a period like that myself when I was in college, working and had a baby - also broke lol. It's hard to be happy when theres not much to look forward to for a while.
I think you should definetly try to work out these feelings by either going to a therapist or talking to your doctor about how you feel. Therapy can be good just to get feelings out in the open and have someone that really listens and helps you figure out how to be happy. And if all else fails perhaps take a few weeks off or even just a few days to decide what you really want and if your life is moving in that direction.
You're probably adjusting to how your life isn't as good as it used to be in high school. Responsibilities and such are probably making changes in the way you think and feel things.
Well, I don't think emotions have a mind of their own since it's your brain/soul region that has the ultimate decision, so you're safe there. As for feeling better, I don't know what your worldview is, but I'll be open, my worldview is shaped on the Bible, and I believe it would be the place to start, and that it is the only way to make things the best. Not to shove anything down your throat, you have a right to what you believe, and that is the way it should be, but you asked for advice, and this is mine.
I know of a great little church in North Carolina that sends out totally free audio cd's and dvd's, and would be more than happy to answer any questions you have, and if you want to get ahold of me, you should be able to do it through answers.yahoo. I'd be glad to talk about whatever I could help you with. This is the website of that church: www.welcometograce.com
As for days that seem like all there is to do is work, I know the feeling, but remember, it'll pay off in the long run. However, it's sometimes nice to have something to look forward to. I'd try looking in your local paper or weekly for fun stuff to do for free or semi free, like: concerts, weekend entertainment etc. I love to float the local river here, which isn't that expensive, or you could go to your library or wikihow.com or somewhere to find interesting projects. I know however, that it's super hard to find time, with work and classes, but even something small can be something to look forward to. Well I don't know much else to say except keep on trucking, and remember that your hard work will pay off, sooner or later...
If you need to talk about something, just throw me a message.
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