Worried about starting high school?
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When people hit puberty they start to value the opinions of others.They start to watch what they say and how they look.Everyone wants to "fit into the crowd." Everyone wants to be accepted.it is human nature to want to be.You have to not really care about what people think and base what you say and do off of what you think and feel.Do NOT base your whole life around "what if"s and "what would they think"s.
You have to be comfortable enough in your own skin to be yourself.People mask the "real" them in order to be who everyone WANTS them to be.
You must not let your father's illness and the worries you have for his well being stop you from caring about life.How will you survive without an education.People in High school are not that bad.Why kids get to high school they do not really care as much.and do not all want to show off and be mean.High school students are MUCH more laid back than middle school students.In middle school.everyone thinks they are so tough, but not anymore.they have pretty much all mellowed out.
Do not worry so much.if the counseling worked see the school counselor.I am sure they would be happy to help.Try to talk a little.try to make friends.that is all you can do.I am sure you will find someone.
School days will become routine.and by the end of the year you will be talking to the people in the desks around you.You just need to calm down a bit and be nonchalant about talking to the people around you.
I had a similar problem. Very shy, still am. Hated high school. Institutionalized education is a sham, and there are many reasons. Everyone here will probably tell you to stick with it. Not me. My advice, if you decide to go to school, be so damn smart that they won't know what to do with you. And if you drop out, educate yourself. Read alot, and be so damn smart that those jokers in high school regret making it so hard on you.
And by jokers I include the teachers as well as your peers.
Read "Dumbing Us Down" by John Taylor Gatto
no. I'm not worried.
I'm a graduate.. and I stuck with it.
do you have LIKE a social anxiety problem, and a social problem.. or are you saying ****, to get attention?
Don't be worried about it. High school is so much better than middle school. I love high school. Sorry to hear about your dad. Try talking and making friends. that will make school so much funner. I love it!! I'll be a senior...actually when school starts on Aug 27th... I'll be a senior. can't wait..
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Well if it's a big 4A-5A high school, dude good luck lol. Just be yourself and if someone doesn't like you --- screw them, or fight them. Oh play sports (football) and you'll be with the kool kids if your good..
Wow that's bad! But you should give people a chance. Not everyone at a high school is a jackass. Don't worry, just be yourself and the right people will come. Trust me, I'm going to my last year of high school now. You should talk more. Shying out of a conversation is not good. People are going to be around you forever. Might as well get rid of the shyness to live a decent life. Unless you enjoy solitude, then be my guest. And yeah there are times where you're like screw school, but only great things come after the diploma. Without it, nothing gets done. Good luck at school. :)
I think you need to continue with your counseling,it can't hurt...I encourage you to go to school and stick it out...because for one you keep start skipping school,and not showing up,it can get your parents in trouble,,and then you have extra study halls,and then you end up in a different class for bad kids,then they put you in a special school.If you can communicate here...you can apply it in public...get out there and study your classes..get good grades and ignore those other jacka***s, just tell them you must not have a life of your own,so you gotta intrude on mine...sounds like,if your a large boy,,,you can use that to your advantage...have you ever taken any boxing lessons? get involved in something,you like,sign up for computer classes! maybe you can show them something.
You probably feel worried because you won't know anyone going into a big school. Fact is, everyone will be kind of nervous, but it will soon pass in the first few days, and you get kind of used to it.
Since you said you're quiet, breaking away from that habit, and talking more frequently will help make your days a little bit more meaningful. However, as as funny as this sounds, don't act "weird" or anything to other students, just look confident, act calm (will make you seem cool), and also socialize with people near your desk before your first classes begin.
Other people in that room will notice that you are an easy-going guy, and is easy to talk to. But you have to do it in the first day or two, that is when impressions are first made.
You'll make friends quickly in the first few days- but try to hang around people who are most like you, not necessarily who's popular...or that may lead to dissapointment (no shared interests, hobbies, etc).
i have the same problem ! i feel for you. :]
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I understand how you felt that you needed to stay home with your dad, and its normal.
And i was also worried about starting high school too, and I'm not going to lie to you, but i had a pretty hard time the very first year.
A bunch of my old girl friends suddenly started to hate me because i was "Perfect" (um,.yeah right) well i had absolutely no friends for a while, (giving me time to work on loads of homework, lol) But after a while i joined a few clubs, (choir) and found some people who have the same interests as me and now they are my friends. :)
All you have to do is
1) Not worry about anything anyone says about you, when you get upset, that is what they are trying to do, -- so don't let them succeed! If you feel upset, talk to a trusted friend, or to a counselor, but don't look hurt when they do mean/stupid things
2) Ignore rumors, at all costs just shake them off, again talk to a consular/teacher/principal, they will be able to help
3) Join clubs and do things that you are interested in! You will find more people that are interested in the same things that you do, you can strike up a conversation with ease, because you both have something in common, (i mean your in the same place doing the same thing,)
Remember people are just as shy as you are! they may not show it, but they are also in a new environment.
4) When you feel shy, or like you don't belong, pretend. Walk into a room, (even if your scared) force yourself to have your head held high, and be proud of who you are and everything you did (no regrets!!) If you look confident on the outside, more people will be drawn to you, and you will feel confident on the inside as well.
I know that your shy, and this will be hard, but you're starting school, you haven't anything to lose, no one knows you yet, you can do it, i did.
5) Be hygienic, take showers, use deodorant, wash clothes, wear perfume (optional) people will be draw to you if your nice and clean. comb hair, brush teeth, wash face, etc.
6) Be nice to people, hold the door open for others, when others hold open the door say thank you, give complements take complements (giving complements are good ice breakers) Don't start rumors about others, and don't be mean to other people, you don't want a bad reputation.
7) Stay on top of homework and studying, the easiest way of doing this is by looking over every night, what you learned the day before, this way you wont have to cram studying all in one or two nights, and if you have any 'Pop Quizzes' you will be ready. Hand in assignments on time, and neatly, preferably with a title page, date, name, teachers name, room number.
8) Try not to get into trouble, wear proper dress code (if you have uniforms) and don't give into peer pressure, (drinking, smoking, drugs, skipping etc) people who try to make you ARE NOT your Friends!
9) Relax, every ones high school experience is different,i bet you were a bit worried reading what happened to me, and not all people are like that, but i look at it this way, its better that i found out that these people aren't really my friends before i actually trusted them with something important later in life, (like if we were at a bar/party and i got lost, would they come and look for me? or just leave) high school i guess is meant to show you that stuff, a place to learn, and to interact with people who give you a hard time, as well as people who support you and who are nice and friendly, its experience for the real world. (You gotta deal with both types of people--no matter what)
For some it is described as "The best four years of my life" others "The worst four years of my life" but either way you look at it, its only four years of your life, and you can handle it no matter what!
Good Luck and Don't Worry About it Anymore!~
What Ever Happens, Happens, And I Wish You Luck!!
God Bless!!!
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