Is there a way to overcome a social phobia, where I get nervous around other people..even one on one?
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The best thing to do is to find your own really confident state and then set it up so that you can reaccess the state during social situations. The subject of NLP can provide you with lots of exercises to help with your problem.
There is a source of such an exercise (known as anchoring) on the website listed.
Good Luck.
Just talk to someone you trust and then it might help
The thing that I've found to work the best is slow desensitization. Start by talking with someone you trust about things you are comfortable with. When you feel okay about doing that, step up to someone you only somewhat know and talk to them... finding something you have in common helps.
Gradually increase the situations that make you nervous until you are talking with a complete stranger (it won't be as scary as it sounds right now. when you're ready for it, it will be easy).
Once you can talk to individual people easily, then try moving up to two people... then to small groups. As you progress, it will feel easier and easier.
I used to be VERY self-conscious, especially when I was in a crowd of people. Now, I can go up to a complete stranger and start up a conversation with ease. Once in a while, I have to catch myself, but it's still a lot easier than I ever thought it would be.
I just want to agree with "oldtimekid" that gradual desensitization works best. Take small steps and try not to overwhelm yourself too much to start out with. It takes some time, but it will get easier and easier.
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