Is there something really wrong with my friend?Like is she mentally unhealthy?
Question:
Well,this is what she does:
She currently changes her look on life,lifestyle
(one day she thinks eating makes bad noises so she only has soup and smoothies and the next month she needs to eat meat and will only eat that)
she keeps worrying about her future and if shes useless even though she has TONS of successmaking qualities
she has literally 10 personalities or more
she uses a different voice different expression language mood interests
out of nowhere shell just go quiet and stare off into space
shes a bit self destructive sometimes shell be doing unhealthy things at risk of really getting hurt
and more too
so whats going on with her?
Answers:
It sounds like she is just trying to find out who she is, let me guess is this a class mate in school? It sounds like a normal teenager self identifing qualities but she could be taking it too far. I would first ask what are her parents like? How is she treated at home in general? and was she neglected or abused (this includes being spanked) growing up? She sounds like someone who has been abused and physically punished this could have to do with the self destructiveness. How and why is she self destructive? The punishments and/or neglect can make someone not value themselves and it also makes you irresponsiable. I think some of it will pass it sounds like a phase but this girl needs someone she can trust and open up too so she can express how she feels and work out what is bothering her (this is the number one cure for most problems). I would just relax let her know you care and will be there for her (if she is someone you care about) a good friend would be just what she needs as it sounds like she is or has had a hard childhood.
Multipal personality disorder has a lot of misconceptions and is not what they used to think. People can take on what seems like they have differennt personalities (voices) because they can't handle the situations that they have to endure and their mind as a self defence puts up a front or she basically shields herself from things that are hurting them by pretending that they are not really there but this usually only happens in extream cases. The different eating habbits are not serious enough, however the description of different emotions could trigger a bad experience that she has a memory and can't handle it which is why she could make a different sounding voice.
I believe no one is crazy and everyone if they truely want it and know they can change any mental problems they mostly just need a little support which not having support in the first place is usually what gets a person started on the road of mental problems.
She may have multiple personality disorder
i dont know what is going on
but she needs help
a different voice?? Yup she's pretty much screwed up.
she could be need to give herself more opportunities, such as going back to school. she could just be bored
The more intelligent your Friend is the more severe her mental illness will become. Ask her to help another in trouble. Until she says she is depressed there is nothing you can do to help her. Depression chemicals slow the heart and breathing and are able to make the body physically painful.
Yes it does sound like she needs help. I'm not exactly sure what's wrong with her but if she were one of my children I would make sure that she started to see a therapist. Have you talked to her or her parents?? IF you can't do that do you two go to school together? IF you do when school reopens talk to one of the counselors about your concerns. But try and see if you can get her to ask for help. IF she realizes that she needs help she's more likely to work with the therapist rather than fight them.
To me, it sounds like ADD with OCD.
it seams similar to ocd, but im not sure. i wouldn't flip out over this. she is probably fine. do you have a disorder or disease, for instance, add or diabetes or something like that? if you do, you can say...i have diabetes. do you have any disorders or anything. im just wondering? uhm. or maybe a little more casually, but you get the point. this is a way to find out if she already has something and knows about it. she could have a disorder and know about it, but not tell people. i wouldn't really worry. her parents probably have it under sontrol, but if you don't think so, then talk to them or suggest going to a school counselor together.
Try getting your friend to talk about herself more...
allow her to express all her worries and concerns to you...
ask her what she thinks about...
ask her what her dreams are...
ask her what her biggest worries in life are...
ask her what makes her happy...
ask her what sort of person she sees herself as...
ask her if she likes herself...
find out everything about her...
this will make your friendship stronger and give you a deeper insight into your friend...
tell her you are worried about her behaviour sometimes because it seems self-destructive... ask her if she thinks that you are justified to worry about her...
if you are still worried about her behaviour, and think she risks getting hurt, or if you think that she would benefit from talking to someone who could help her with her life a little bit, then you could try suggesting that she talks to someone else about her worries... her parents or her doctor might be able to help, or otherwise she could approach a councellor or an online support service.
you are a very caring friend, she is lucky to have you.
all the best,
zag
Wow, looking at the previous answers, your friend already has 4 different diagnoses (ADD, OCD, MPD and depression). That'd be enough to make anyone think they're pretty screwed!
It sounds like your friend is just trying to work out who she is. Do these things have a negative impact on her daily life? Does she think there's a problem? Maybe she just likes being individual.
Teenagers will often experiment with things like this. They are trying to find their own identities and explore the possibilities . i think she is just finding out who she is.
Be a friend to her, and talk to her about stuff. I think she will be OK. Does she even realize her behavior may seem odd to others?
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