Battling Body Image Issues?
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"Women in the U.S. are under pressure to live up to a certain social and cultural ideal of beauty. Unfortunately this can lead to poor body image. A woman’s body image is based on shape, size and physical appearance. “ Our body image is formed out of every experience we’ve ever had: parents, role models, and peers (in your case, boyfriends) who give us an idea of what it is like to love and value a body. Image is formed from the positive and negative feed back from people whose opinions mater to us. It is also the way we, ourselves have perceived our body to fit or not fit the cultural image.” states Marcia Hutchinson, author of the book, Transforming Body Image. Many women have a distorted perception of what their bodies look like. Different women may look in the mirror and see a larger body than the one they have. Having large thighs, large buttocks and a rounded abdomen, or small breasts ect. may lead to distress in some women. Not fitting into the “cultural ideal” may cause body dissatisfaction in others.
No matter what the beliefs people have about the exploitation of women, everyone must be aware that society and especially the media portray an image of women that is both unrealistic and potentially unhealthy for most women.
What women seem to be misunderstanding is the fact that the media images(or porno) of the beautiful women they strive to look like is unattainable by all but a small portion of women.
Women think that if they can just lose the weight (or get a boob job or other surguries)they will be a “success.” They will become the attractive person others want to be with. Secure, sexy, professional and more! What women are not good at telling themselves is that they can be sexy, professional and self-assured without relentlessly driving themselves to be perfect with huge breasts and thin. In fact they are just fine the way they are."
The guy you were with was insecure!! Those girls are the last thing you want to model yourself after. And they are not perfect by any means. Dont you understand those pictures are sooooo air brushed and photo shoped its not funny. Plus porn stars have the nastiest labia ever!(down fall of the job i guess) Dont listen to what people say. especially guys, they have zero grasp of reality. They think those fantasy girls are real, like thats what they really look like. They dont!! Your job isnt to get naked and spread your legs for the whole world so who cares what your labia look like and furthur more the only people who will ever see that part of your anatomy will be you your doctor and someone who loves you too much to care. Your ex bf was a total jerk off and im sure you couldve found a porn site that wouldve put him in his place, if you know what i mean! ;) And who cares about breasts? if they are small, then be happy and if they are huge be happy. be happy they are healthy and you still have two of them. So many women dont. and the same thing goes for them too, no one is paying to see them so who cares if they arent perfect. only you your dr. and the man who loves you too much too care. You need to realize you are healthy and to me thats perfect. I think you just need to meet the right guy and youll be amazed at how uninhibbited you become! Next time you watch porn take a really good look at those girls. We just got playboy channel at our house ;) and i feel sexier than ever now that ive actually seen what porn stars look like in the act. Jenna jameson eat your heart out.
**** head.hes full of **** thats all there is too it...get pissed...get some with some hot men...and get that confidence back!
The issue is not with your body, it's with your heart.
be good to yourself , do not give up your confidence in physical appearance
Good for you, leaving your boy friend was the best thing that you could have done, Don't feel bad about your body, you really sound amazing, and don't let other people tell you any different. The media and pornography is what gives these guys the idea that every woman should look like that, but it's wrong, you will find someone who is in love with you for you and not how you look. i know it sound sappy :) but you do get guys like that. Don't waste your time with the other jerks. Why would you feel unhappy with your breasts, don't worry about it, focus on things that are more important.
I hope this helps :)
I'm sorry to know you had such an immature, inconsiderate bf. You need to forget about the things he's said to you, he was probably full of poo. Anyway, I am actually a very unattractive woman and believe it or not, looking at myself in the mirror everyday has helped me feel better about myself. I know, you'd think that it'd be the opposite but it really did help me. Instead of dwelling on what I didn't like, I started noticing what I did, and even learned to like some of the things I didn't. I hope you start feeling better about yourself soon.
Women on porn sites are often airbrushed etc and have had surgery to make them look the way they are. Your (ex) boyfriend is very ungrateful, most men will appreciate your breasts and labia just the way they are. They way they look is not something you need to be worrying about, trust me. Concentrate on getting a decent boyfriend and you'll realise you were worrying over nothing.
everyone has their own insecurities. don't forget it. your disconcerting personal flaws aren't scrutinized as much as you may think, because most people (unlike your ex-boyfriend) aren't superficial enough to compare you to internet porn. besides people are too worried about their own flaws to find fault with you. if that doesn't make you feel better, compare your problems to a nuclear holocaust...that usually works for me
What your last boyfriend said was inexcusable!! This is a very serious condition and even though it may have been triggered by his remarks more than likely you have been suffering from it for quite sometime but by saying what he did ( totally uncalled for) it started making you feel even more self conscience. I suffer from BDD ( Body Dismorphic Disorder ) but I have been in therapy for quite sometime and am recovering. I would recommend that you at least talk to a professional about this so things do not escalate from here and you will be able to have healthy relationships and be healthy yourself. I am terribly sorry somone would say something so shallow to you. I wish you the best~
He was nasty, you should feel like a princess, be who u are, not who some one wants you to be. them women on porn stuff have plastic surger, are air brushed and heavily maked-up....wellm ost, some are perfectly like that, but no matter what, u are who u aer an no one should change that, be yourself an the right guy will come along. I have a problem with body image, just ion a different way, i used to weight 17 stone, and still think that i am that fat.
How I reason is that you have the body you have - period. I find it very sad when people go for lots of plastic surgery to feel good about themselves and then end up looking very scary. I also had a boyfriend that was never satisfied with the way I look. People tell me I'm attractive (by the way, I'm also 27 and female) and I'm not overweight. But he kept on comparing me to other girls. We broke up because he did not really know the real me; he just wanted me to be some clone of the image he had in his mind. Go and talk to somebody; you'll have to get onto a path of really loving yourself, warts and all. I'm also on that same path so: Good luck!
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