Is it safe to tell?
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You counselor is mandated by law (meaning she can be fined if she does not report abuse) However there are many variables here. It depends on whether this was date rape (someone under age) or if it was rape by a caretaker. . .if it was a caretaker then child protective services would investigate with the police. If it was someone under age then the juvenile authorities would have to know. However, you counselor has to obey the law. Of course you could report without giving the name (if you even know the name) but she will encourage you to report it!! However, you really should not hold this in. It saddens me that you can't talk to your parents but rape is NEVER the victims fault. . .it is all about control. For some reason the perpatrator needs control and if he/she did it once they will do it again to someone else. Always remember if this happens it should be report right away so evidence can be collected. If there is no evidence then it becomes your word against theirs. If the perpatrator still has access to you it will happen again if you keep quiet. If he does not have access then he will do it to another. It is very important to not feel guilty and like you caused it because it is always a problem within the perpatrator. It is not how you dressed or where you were.
She is a mandated reporter. Be brave or you will have very difficult issues later in life and this person will victimize again. Perpetrators like silence,don't give him what he wants.
She would probably tell your parents, that is very serious.
I think it has to stay between the two of you. You aren't the one who raped someone, so she's not liable to tell the police. I think under the client confidentiality law, she can't say anything. She will probaly encourage you to tell the police, and I must say, I agree. Don't let this person rape more people. I'm so sorry for whats happened to you. I can't imagine your pain.
Why on earth would you want that to stay private? Don't you want your attacker brought to justice?
Since you're a minor (I presume) she would have to inform the authorities since it's technically child abuse.
you need to tell someone. What happened to you is very serious and NOT YOUR FAULT. If you can't talk to your parents and don't want to tell her, call http://www.rainn.org/ 1.800.656.HOPE. They will be able to talk to you and give you good advice on your next steps. Please consider talking to your parents though -- whoever did this to you should not be allowed to go free. Think of all the other women he could harm...
I think she has to keep your stuff confidential but in the mean time YOU need to tell your parents.
She'll probably tell someone. But if you go to www.rainn.com or its www.rainn.org. I don't know if its dot org or dot com. But either way there is a website and you can type in your zip code and it will give you numbers around your area. Those numbers should be just between you and the person on the phone since they are in your area they could possibly find you councelling too.
Rape is a form of sexual abuse. By law, she will need to report it to both your parents and authorities.
But please tell her. Tell someone. You won't regret it.
I don't know about school psychologists, but I know there are rape crises centers you can go to and legally they are not allowed to share confidential information. I would recommend going to a rape crises center first.
If you're afraid to see someone there in person first, you can always call an anonymous hotline. You'll have to google information locally since I don't know where you are.
You're not alone, so know there are people who are there for you.
Ethically, she shall keep this secret between you and she.
However, when you have come out from the phobia, i think you don't mind to let your parents know
Like myself, i suffered depression, i seek psychiatrist's help without informing anyone. When my illness is improving, I started to let my close friends, family members to know my condition.
Wish you come out from that bad memory.
i am sorry to hear of your rape. you need help dealing with this issue. you should talk to your folks. i have no background with this but if you just want to talk feel free to email me. i hope you find the strength to speak up. this guy could attack somebody else. you need to be brave and stop this guy. please contact me if you just want to talk.
I think she has to tell someone (I'm not sure who) what happened. But please don't decide not to tell her based on this information. The person who did this to you needs to have charges filed against him/her--what he/she did is a heinous crime. If he can somehow be stopped based off of the information you give, it is worth it--then he will be less able to harm others like he did you.
And by the way, it's not ever your fault that this kind of thing happened to you--rape does happen to a lot of people, after all, even if it doesn't seem that way. The person at fault is the person who raped you.
But I encourage you to go tell your parents (I am sure that they will be outraged at the person who did it to you, not you, so don't be afraid to tell them). If not them, at least the psychologist at your school.
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