Eating disorder, where can i get help and how do i tell parents?
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I became anorexic in 5th grade and then turned to bulimia in 6th...then I cycled between the two until I was 17. I know what you're going through. I understand how afraid you are...I am also the "apple of my parents eyes" and I was terrified of what they would think. My eating disorders (and cutting) were caused by depression, a result of the abuse I'd been facing since I was 2 (sexual/physicall/emotional/me... not from my parents). I thought they would hate me or blame me, that they would throw me to the street or never speak to me again. They actually found out because I cut myself in class...I wasn't trying to kill myself, I was just very stressed and that was my way of dealing with it.and of course, the school called them and I had to tell them everything. And you know what? I'm so glad I did. There was the initial shock of it, but the first thing my mom did was wrap her arms around me and tell me how much she loved me and that she would do everything she could to help me. In fact, I learned that when she was younger she had become bulimic...of course, she had since gotten over it but she knew what it was like. I was blown away. I never thought my mom would have done it...but I was wrong. Anyways, they had me talk to a therapist for a while and because of their support, the support of my friends and therapy, I have since been able to stop it all.eating disorders, cutting, and have gotten out of my depression and don't obsess over my memories. I will admit that sometimes when I get really stressed I can't make myself eat or I throw up everything I eat, but I have learned how to deal with stress so I don't do that so much. I know it's hard, but you need to sit both of them down, together, and ask them to remain quiet while you tell them everything. In the end, you'll be glad you did. BTW, my parents are both divorced and remarried, so I had 2 sets of parents to tell. It was nervewracking to tell one set and then the other...so tell them at the same time. I know you can do it. If you need any help or want to talk, you can e-mail me: lady_of_the_penguins@yahoo.com... I'm rooting for you!
just come out with it. You may need a phycologist. Its worth it!
copy and paste what you wrote here and email it to them
Go to a cousellor in school or talk to someone you feel comfortable telling this to.
And please, learn to love yourself. The only person who can help you is you yourself.
If you'r cured, then there's no need to tell your parents but if the problem persists, please tell your parents. I know they do not want you to screw up in life. Eating disorders can kill you. I'm sure they'll do what's best for you.
i don't know where to start
firstly you are very brave in admitting you have a problem, you can't change what you don't acknowledge!
Tell your parents as soon as you can- maybe have a close friend or other relative there with you. Chances are, they might have suspected something already since it's been going on so long.
Together you could find a place for you to go. Have you spoken to anyone about this? Your doctor might have some suggestions.
I hope you get the help you need soon, you're too young to have been going through this on your own for so long. Parents are tough, they'll be able to cope. They will jut want you to be well, so don't worry about anything else but that.
Maybe your brothers/sisters will step up.
Best of luck with everything.
Here are a couple of 800 numbers you could try. You can get help in dealing with your eating disorder and assistance in how to tell your parents. Good luck.
National Eating Disorder Hotline--1-800-248-3285 weekdays 12 Noon to 8 pm EST. Referral service, on-site therapist, general information.
Bulimia, Anorexia Self Help/Behavior Adaptation Support and Healing
800-762-3334, 800-227-4785
I would honestly say your parents would be the best help for you. Since you mentioned that they are divorced, I would say that you go to who ever you think would take it the best or that you are closest to. Then go from there. Being the only child that hasnt completely screwed up their life is a lot of pressure. I know from experience. Ive had my dad tell me something to that effect and Ive been going nuts ever since.
Take a deep breath and get to talking. Call a family meeting if you need to. Tell them that you need to discuss something very important with them both and sit them down in a neutral place and open up. You could however speak to a counselor at school or a teacher you trust that might be able to help you. Just make sure you get some help.
tell your parents before they find out on their own. its much worse that way.. and if u tell them, they wont be mad, they'll get you help so that you can stop
just sit them down and tell them.. it'll be okay
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