What's a good way of getting rid of negative thoughts?
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My best advice would be to tell you what my therapist told me when he was trying to help me to stop my negative thinking.
He said to simply "stop" the thought. Basically, when you catch yourself thinking negatively, stop the thought. Then, he said to "reframe" the thought.
For example, let's say that you know in your heart that your husband would never cheat on you, but then your mind starts working overtime on "what if"...well, you catch yourself as soon as that thought comes into your head and reframe it by saying" I know he would never do that sort of thing...I am just looking for things to worry about. Catch my drift? It is hard to do and sometimes you may not catch yourself quick enough..but it gets easier with time.
I am a worrier, and sometimes I forget the good advice he gave me so I am going to try to apply this in my life as well. I sortof got out of the habit.
Good luck to you and I hope I have helped in some small way.
That's a really hard question to answer, just because each different person will develop their own way of thinking positive differently.
Personally, I use treats and rewards as motivation. I also commonly look at how well I've done something or how well I'm doing in it to motivate me to keep going on it. I've also used music to help motivate me and keep me thinking positively.
I had a job where I was selling door to door and getting a LOT of rejection, and those are what helped me get through each day without letting the bad stuff get to me as much. That being said, I also had already developed a "thick skin" earlier in life (when I was picked on a lot), so I didn't pay attention as much to negative things.
I also know of people that have used certain statements to help push themselves or think positively. That never worked for me, but everyone has to figure out what works best for them.
What helps for most people that I've noticed especially for depression is to evaluate the feelings, verbally name them, and then try to remember the good things that are happening. A lot of people that haven't done this before get a lot of help from a counselor... a person who will listen and help you to evaluate your feelings.
i know this may not be right for you..but i've always found writing very helpful..i wrote a lot of poetry (not necessarily good) but it helped get everything off my chest..
when you start thinking bad things just try and think of good things that are happening in your life.
Disregard the mind and don't use it so much. Do you use your mind or does the mind use you? Thinking is mostly unnecessary.
You can think less when you're saying yes to what's happening, instead of no.
I know exactly what you mean. I'm not depressed either but there's 1 issue I need to stop dwelling on. I took the old fashioned route and "pray" in a way. As soon as a negative thought starts, I block it with positive things. You can't think about 2 things at once, so when I feel it creeping up on me, I say to myself: you're a winner, you can do it. God wants you to be happy. You won't let this overcome you. You can fight it. You're a child of the most high God. I just keep repeating these things until I feel myself standing tall and confident.
I also listen to Joel Osteen sermons on MP3 and he's all about being positive. I listen to him so often, when I get a negative thought, I can hear/repeat his words (you're anointed, you're a child of God, you will overcome this) in my head.
The last two answers are ones Ive tried.thought stopping takes alot of practice but is very effective
Prayer I know some ppl may think Oh Im not religous..but the way I look at it is instead of worrying about something if I pray its like concentrating on being positive...it really is a positive way of replacing worry or other negative thoughts.
Why do you want to quit having these thoughts? Are they a problem. If not, quit trying to go down the yellow brick road of positive thinking. Forget that Dr. Phil crap. You want only good thoughts, happiness, free love, We tried that in the 60's, it did not work. You have become way to analytical with your thinking, Your brain does not know good/bad emotions. So if you have a "negative" or "positive for that matter. thought. Embrace them you do not have to act on them.
There are many colors in the rainbow, same with your brain. There is love, hate, loneliness, sadness, joy, fear. Just because you want to just see green, you can never just de program yourself to not see the rest of the rainbow.
You can't always control what you feel, but you can embrace what you feel. If you try to replace bad feelings with positive thoughts, you will do much more harm in the long run. It is called repression, sometimes you have hurt full feeling about others or yourself. That's OK, that's what makes life full.
You are not a Vulcan
Live long and prosper
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