Is this normal?
Question:
The rest of the family of all got over the death and have told me its about time i did to, but i just cant.
I dont understand why im still grieving, is this normal?
Do you think i should get help?
Answers:
People cope with grief differently. Perhaps you should get some bereavement counselling as you should not be feeling so bad and having nightmares after 3 months.
I don't know if you need to get help, but you have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. You should talk to your doctor about it, in case you do. Better be safe than sorry.
I hope you get feeling better. If anybody I knew well died, my depression would worsen and I'd probably end in a psych ward.
i think this is very normal. it can take a year to stop feeling the grief you feel. don't listen to your family, every one is different and your feelings should not be put aside because the grief has ended for some of your family. I'm sorry to hear of your loss and hope you feel better soon xxxxxxx
Very normal. Everyone grieves differently, this is something you cannot do wrong. There are no time frames. Sometimes people may need some counseling. You obviously loved your grandparents very much, this is a sign of that.
Yes it is natural, three months isn`t a long time. Everyone grieves differently. A close relative of mine died 4 1/2 years ago and I still have days now when I cry. I would suggest you visit the Doctor about your nightmares though. Take care. x
That's normal. The more you love a person, the longer it takes to get over their death. Some takes up to a year.
There is no reason you should "get over it" in the same time frame as anyone else.
Everyone feels differently about their relatives and hence everyone will feel differently when they pass.
Maybe you need to understand why you feel differently from the rest of the family?
Sounds like seeing a grief counsellor could really help you.
People have different ways of coping with grief. You take longer to get over things, which is perfectly fine. They may say for you to get over it, but you can't since it is just so upsetting that they died.
I still have not gotten completely over the fact two of my friends were killed at the beginning of summer, I sometimes lie awake at night wondering what exactly happened to them whent he car crashed.
You are dealing with grief, which hurts physically and emotionally, and when you are ready to move on, you are ready to move on, but for now, it is just fine to keep grieving.
Apparently you loved your grandparents very much, as I did mine..(I lost my grandmother, who raised me, and she died at age 103 last year)....Yes it's normal for you to still be grieving but try to remember all the good times you shared with them and the love that was between you all....When you feel like you're going to cry (which I still do) remember a special Christmas or Birthday....Maybe a trip you all went on and had a great time....Try to turn the tears into good memories....It helps!!....CAT
Take as long as you want. Didn't Queen Victoria always wear black for her Albert? Royality exists to serve you.
my daughter sat and cried her heart out for her gran the day before yesterday and she died a year gone July, i think maybe you should talk your nightmares through with some one to help your grieving move on a little, but grieving is a private thing and there is no set time to stop, but things will get easier for you, and your sadness will ease, good luck chick
As already said, everyone experiences grief differently, and considering you had 2 losses to cope with I don't think 3 months is an excessively long time. However it will do you no harm whatsover to have some counselling to help you cope with it. If this is your first experience of death then it will be a particularly hard one, losing two people at once adds to this. No one can tell you when its time to get over this, it is a process you have to go through and once you have gone through your own processes then you will move on. You are perfectly normal in your feelings and yes it is normal for grieving time to be different for everyone. Perhaps go to see your G.P. who may be able to recommend a Counsellor. Best Wishes xx
I am so very sorry for your loss. Grandparents are so special and it is so painful to lose them. It is easy for someone to tell you to get over something. Much easier said than done. Everyone mourns differently, I don't think that you ever totally get over it. How do you just forget about your loved ones and how you feel about their deaths? If you feel that it is going on too long and you are unable to get on with your life then I would suggest speaking with someone. You do not mention how old you are, my guess is that you are fairly young. If you feel that there is no one able to help you I would consider looking in the phone book for a crisis hot line, there is always someone there who will listen to you. Be patient and allow yourself to feel, but think about your grandparents, would they want you to spend all your time crying or would they want you to enjoy life? I bet they would want you to go on with your life and remember the happy times you shared with them. Good luck to you.
It is normal to still be grieving. Everyone deals with death differently and the grieving process is different for everyone. If you feel you need professional help then go and ask for it. There is nothing to be ashamed about by getting help. Don't be bullied by the rest of your family into suppressing your grief.
I wish you the best of luck. xx
Hi.
I believe it's normal, especially if you were close to them. People are different and they react to things differently.
The rest of the family "probably" got over the death but you didn't. I'm not saying that you have to stay in your room and cry till the rest of your days, I'm just saying that if deep in your heart you feel like crying when you remember something about them, cry then. Remember: tomorrow is another day and maybe most likely you will feel much better than today.
Peace and love.
Yes it is normal. Some people are more sensitive than others and take it more to heart. My mom and grandad died very close together and took me a long time to get over it.
I did got to the doctor as I just kept crying and drove myself mad. I got some sleeping pills which I took on rought days and helped me to get a decent nights sleep.
Time heals and you will feel better but it takes a while
It is fairly normal to grieve for months sometimes. It may be some of your family are still grieving but don't won't to think about it. I suspect you may need to talk about your grandparents and aren't getting the opportunity.
Your doctor can refer you for counselling if you want it.
Best Wishes
I believe that death doesn't interrupt life. Both of your grandparents are spirits now and they are not suffering any longer. And as loving grandparents they must expect that you move on with your life and be happy. Believe me make yourself happy and move on with your life would be a great gift for them. God bless you.
Take no notice of your family in this, there is no 'NORMAL' time span for grieving.
Contact an organisation called 'Cruise' who are a bereavement counseling service.
> www.crusebereavementcare.org.u... <
they are very good.
Good luck to you.
Sash.
People vary, all I can say to reassure you is that grief reactions lasting a year are far from rare. It is possible at this stage though that you might be ready for some bereavement counselling which may help.
As people have already pointed out, grief is personal to you. From a mental health point of view, grief would only become worrying if it continued unresolved for over 6 months.
If you feel ready, try and look at photos of you and your grandparents at happy times eg a birthday, christmas or a family holiday to remind yourself of good times you had, rather than the days they died.
If after 6 months you still feel that your grief is effecting your day to day life, consider asking your gp to refer you for grief counselling - however, I would guess that you will have begun to come to terms with your loss by then.
I know its hard, especially if you have been close to your grandparents. I lost my Nan (my final living Grandparent) 18 months ago, while I still think about her most days, it is mostly followed by a smile, knowing she is with my Grandad looking down on me hopefully smiling back! Good luck, my thoughts are with you!
help perhaps but not from the medical field. child, we know you are greiving and we know you held so much love in you. you will soon be feeling the heavy weight you bear lift. god bless you child. you are the blessed one.
its only been three months since it happened!
people grieve in different ways, it take some people years, some people bottle it up and then it just comes out!
give yourself some time, i would say you are very normal, and those who have seem to have gotten over it might not of done!
my gran died when i was 11 im 23 now theres not a day goes by when i dont think of her or mention her name in some way if i have a cry over something on tv or something silly i always get little flashbacks of my gran the funeral etc.
you might need a little help have a talk with your doctor see if they can help you out
goodluck
Hi it doesn't make any difference how long your grand parents died its how you feel I lost my parents close together its been more than 5years now and I still have not come to terms with their death my sisters are getting on with their lives but I can not I wish I had a answer for you but I'm afraid I haven't it takes time even if you do get medical help all I can say is I hope you get through it talk to your parents let them no how you feel it might help good luck
Bless you.
I lost my Grandparents a few years ago and I'm still not really over it. Grief affects everyone differently, so yes you are normal! If you feel like you need to talk about it (posting this question suggests that you do) then yes, you should find a good counsellor.
The nightmares being most nights is possibly not normal- only because it will be really stressing you, maby you should go and see the doctor for help! It does take a long time to grieve though and everyone is different- I am still struggling with flash backs occasionally and my grandad died nearly 6 years ago
all people experience grief differently and they take different amounts of time to get through it so dont worry you may be suffering from post traumatic stress but i wouldnt worry about it just let nature take its course and things will work out for you
No you dont need help your grandparents were close to you so you grieve, you miss them, thet were a important part of your life. May the others in the family were not that close or didnt have a closer bond.
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