Why is she doing this to me?
Question:
her: I still love you
me: who is this?
her: who do you want it to be
i called not knowing who it was. it was her (new #). talked. it sounded like a bunch of bulllshhiittt and I wasnt eatin it.
i went through a lot of hell because of her, mentally and physically. when i called her she was packing her stuff and moving out of her "old" b/fs apartment. so she says (more b.s.)
after her mother died, i knew she was phukked up. i would be too if i saw my mother slowly dying after 8 years.
what should i do? should i give it a third shot or just stay enjoyably single? we were "together" for 9 years. am really confused, beyond belief but not suicidal anymore. thanks
Answers:
This person needs some serious mental help in form of counseling. Until seh gets this counseling, you will be practicing your mistakes of letting her back into your life. She will repeat her same behavior until she puts significant effort into changeing it. I never accept the "Don't worry I'll change" line unless it is followed by a concrete paln of how she palns to change her behavior, what her crisis plan is and what time frame she has put on her goals.
Go on with your life. Think of hwat good she has brought you, think of what bad she has brought you, and then enjoy being yourself for a while without the constrains of role playing into another relationship. If you don't take time off of dating, the next person will end up "paying " for her misgivings.
sounds like a prank lol, sorry buddy.
Steer clear of her. She is obviously use to you being there when she needs you then goes on with her life..
Don't fall for it. She made you miserable before and it will happen again. Sounds like she's been dropped by her cuurent b/f. She wants to hook you to prove that she is still in control of something. She burned her bridge.
You need to move on. She needs to get help for herself. And until she figures this out she will only drag you down with her.
Stay single! You cannot recapture the past, except maybe the "hell" part. Believe me, when there is a lot of history, it is very hard to overcome the bad stuff and regain a happy relationship. Sounds like she is done with her current ex and doesn't want to be alone. Don't let her pull you into her current drama...find someone who can love you for who you are. You deserve that much.
I don't think that this is a question for other people. If you still love her, and you trust that she wont do that to you again, then go for it. But if you don't want to take that anymore, then find someone else; it's a big world, I'm sure you've heard. I think that you shouldn't take it from her. Even if her mother was sick, she shouldn't have treated you like that. You're probably a great guy and theres another great girl out there just for you. You deserve a lot more. Good luck!
do what makes you happy. thats wt matters.
hope it helps.
I wouldn't mess with her anymore. You've given her more than one chance and she screwed it up. She sounds like one of those people who enjoy making others miserable. Ever hear of "Misery loves company"? It's true.
for your own health (emotional) I would run away from this one.. she wil hurt u again
it sounds like she only "loves" you when she needs support.
if she's not commited, why fall for it? if you're asking me, it's a no.
i had the same situation and after our 2nd break up with my guy, i had enough.
not answering the person makes it better.
but then again, its your choice. be free to make your own decision :]
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