My new therapist?
Question:
Could this be true, or more likely my issue arising?
Answers:
If you suffer from low self-esteem this could simply be another manifestation of it. Any good therapist will tell you, straight out, if the process is not working.
You need to be honest with your therapist. Tell her your fears and have her help you gain trust in her.
If, after giving it an earnest try, you still feel the same, ask her if there is someone else you might see who may work better for you.
Then you have the wrong therapist.
My wife went through the same thing.
I have done my homework since then.
You need a neuro or cognitive therapist who is willing to work on your problem.
The first thing your therapist must do, after you have talked to them about your problem, is to tell you exactly what will happen and how long it will take.
Then you will be given homework. It's your problem isn't it, so you want to start working on it everywhere you go?
If the therapist is not up front in this way, he is going to drag it on. That's how they make their money. Tell them what you expect and if that is not their way, thank them and move on.
In the meantime, if you can learn to do your own therapy, you may want to read my articles at
http://themeaningisyou.com
You should ask directly. Write down the exact words you have here and hand the paper to her, if you are too nervous to say them.
If she doesn't give a satisfactory response, then time to move on for sure.
How is your therapy going? Do you have GOALS you are working on?
Cognitive therapy or Rational-Emotive therapy are the best types of therapy, IMHO. I think you get more concrete results with a functional outcome, vs. sitting and BSing about life.
It sounds like she has problems of her own if she is an expert and can't be straight up with you about trying to get rid of you for whatever reason.
Who knows though. She may not be meaning that at all. Perhaps you are getting these feelings from your own negative experiences in your life. Have you experienced a lot of rejection in your life?
I think that I would ask her nicely...tell her that you have been having thoughts that she doesn't really want you in there. Maybe she can clarify what she is trying to convey way better than any of us can. If it offends her, then she is a professional and should be able to handle the situation tactfully without being rude. Good luck to you!
Let her know about your feelings. Tell her you think that she is trying to get rid of you. Talk about the different things she has done to make you feel this way. That is what therapy is all about, being open and honest about your feelings. Good Luck
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