So really, why don't adults think that kids can have problems too?
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What the heck?!??!! What? Should I say that you getting the flu is "all in your head"?
I would think that teens would be MORE suseptabel to these issues because of the hole GROWING UP thing. Sometimes(note that word) I think that we as 'kids' are more mature than adults.
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Well I think it's important to realize changes or developments in mental health. The idea of mental health is an old concept. "Doctors" used to determine mental health issues by feeling bumps on the head. They used to examine people with mental health issues by cutting apart their skulls and looking at their brains for abnormalitites after they have died. Now these example date back thousands of years, but it illustrated the change in mental health knowledge. As far as the past 40 years or so, there still has been a change. Our parents do not and have not had fewer mental health issues then we do. I think a few things are happening.
1) There was a stigma to addressing mental health issues, which is being ripped apart now as it is ok to go to therapy. They are still carrying some of this stigma with them, which exaplins their view of us.
2) People today are going to therapy more and more, and I do believe people are over diagnosed. It's almost a thing where people want to be diagnosed with something. This goes to the therapist as well. They are at times so eager to diagnose someone, so the older generations kind of see this, and hold an opinion to this. I mean I broke up with my girlfriend once, was upset, went to a psychologist, he diagnosed me with depression. WRONG! Maybe a phase of life problem?? Parents also might think, "yea, they're depressed a little about that situation, but I was depressed when I broke up with girls before too, I eventually got over it, and now I'm fine."
3) I think parents also don't want their children to have these problems due to their stigma. They want their children to be fine, and are almost in a sense, in denial.
4) The knowledge of mental health has changed a lot in the past 30-40 years. So you have two generations with different views and knowledge of mental health, which will obviously cause a conflicting sense of whats right and whats wrong.
So as you see, I think there are a number of things going on with the older generations opinions about mental health and their problems. I hope that helps a little.
Because they haven't been in your shoes and times were probably easier when they were growing up.
My parents lived in India, and they think that I should be very lucky to have a roof over my head, food, clothes, a TV, a computer, etc...when they didn't have that.
I agree with you that teens do have it rough, with how cruel highschool and middleschool is, all of this pressure to be perfect, peer pressure, finding out who you are, wondering whether the opposite sex likes you, etc...I would never want to be a teenager ever again. As an adult, I think a lot of adults don't have to worry about certain things that teenagers worried about.
I so agree with u it's unbelievable
Define "Problems". Believe it or not, most parents have "HAD" the problems you're going through already. If your problems are "Nothing to wear with my Gold sweater" or "I hate my hair", those aren't problems.
Problems are Paying the bills, making sure your kids are safe or keeping the roof from leaking.
While your problems seem big to you, look at it from your parents point of view.
And it's true, most kids "Don't feel good" on school mornings because they don't want to attend school that day. Real sickness/illness is easy to spot.most times.
Your not perfect and neither are your parents.
im not sure, but my mom is the same way. she only worries about herself... she recently divorced and kept our big house and she chose about 6 years ago to go back to school and become a teacher, she knew what she was getting into but she complains all the time about how hard her life is... well my life is hard too and i didnt ask for any of it, im a junior in highschool and im in a scholarship program getting my associates degree right now because otherwise i would be in debt for the rest of my life because we cant aford it.. and her getting divorced was stressful on me too...
she complains alll day and i havent said a word, i just do my best to keep both of our lives together and it pisses me off so bad about how inconciderate she is sometimes.. i just dont understand how she cant think my life is hard.
adults.. go figure
Because sometimes adults cant even recognize their own selves of having problems, and forget that kids are "poeple" too not possessions.
I have to go with bumpusemt on this one, he/she has the answer I would give. Many times teens will say "my life is over my boyfriend dumped me" It is a problem to you. But, there are far worse things. I think parents see the drama over the problems and then kind of brush them off. If you really need someone to listen and help try a guidance councillor at school.
Oh I know. But I guess some people are just ignorant.
There are those who understand though...
I've had plenty of people tell me that I've seen more trouble, and had more problems in my 15 years then they in their whole lives. Thats really not a good thing though...I'd give anything to be happy & "normal".
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