How to deal with a friend that cuts?

Question:

okay, my friend is NOT the type of person that you would think cuts. she has an incredibly good head on her shoulders, she's a straight A student and she just knows whats good and whats bad. she has anxiety problems though, and thats why shes basically cutting, because her therapist isn't helping. i know for a fact that she's not doing it to 'end her life' though.. but i just don't know how to handle it. i care about her a lot, obviously .. she doesnt want me to tell her parents but i'm not sure, because she came out in the open with her therapist and she WANTS to stop, and she knows that this isnt the way to go.. but she still knows her parents will flip out. i just wanna know how i can comfort her, you know?

Answers:
the problem is, you would never think someone you know is the 'type' that cuts. I would say a very low-key, one on one intervention to start. tell her that by hurting herself, she is hurting you. She is apparently intelligent from what you say, so she may be able to deter you from your original goal, but stick with it. Tell her all about the health risks. Like you, I had a friend who cut. Not to kill herself, but one day that is just what happened. She didn't mean to, she was just looking for a deeper adrenaline rush, but instead she sent herself to her deathbed. Make sure your friend knows you are there. Tell her that anytime she feels like cutting to call you instead. Cutting is addictive, but the best way to stop is cold turkey. Make sure all your friends are there for her. Tell your friend that anytime she needs to talk to call you, or write a letter, or an e-mail, and make sure she knows that you won't abandon or desert her in her times of need.

Tell her parents and be the best friend you can be.

i know how ur friend feels.. the best u can do is be there for her. be the best friend and confident that she needs. tell her that if she ever needs urges than u are open to talk even if its the middle of the night.. get her to do something else if shes anxious.. i write, draw, or listen to music when i'm depressed.. snapping rubber bands also helps.. just b there for her

Get your friend a boyfriend who will give her lots of attention.

Be there for her, make sure she knows you are there anytime. I think the best thing you can do for her is to tell her parents, she needs help. Yeah, she might be mad at you for a while, but would you rather have her mad at you or dead? I know the answer is obvious...she may not be doing it to intentionally kill herself, but you never know what could happen. If you need any help you can IM me!

If her parents are going to give her negative **** about it then don't tell them, but if thier gonna flip out in a concerned way then you should definetly tell...Ask her if theres anything you can do and volunteer to tell someone w/ her, whoever she feels comfortable telling. Does her therapist now? You should make sure he does. If her family is giving her crap and getting her depressed than get her to sleep over alot, or sleep over there to help keep her mind off it. I think you need to find out why she's doing it and then try to help with the problem.. Good luck.. I had a friend who cut and months later i still haven't been able to help she just got in a destructive relationship that in my opinion is making things worse b/c he cuts to, we turned her in to the school guidance counsler cause her parents are both drunk losers, we were so worried that she'd kill herself that we(me and another mutual friend to us both) felt we had no other choice. I'd try to keep her away from these kind of destructive people, but be sure if you really do get worried you tell...Don't regret not telling later. One important thing is that even if she doesn't intend to kill herself that doesn't matter, she could still slip and don't put it out of ur mind something couldn't go wrong b/c she could die.

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How to deal with a friend that cuts?

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