Getting over the death of someonw who died. How do you cope?.?

Question:

My grandmother (Nona) died back in December of 2001. As where the rest of my family has moved on and accepted her passing, I can not. It seems for every year that passes it is getting harder to deal with her being gone. Now, I keep having dreams about her and I find my self calling out to her in the middle of the night, then waking up.
For the latter part of my life I didnt see her much, long story, family probs. I find the most hardest times of my life, I need her. Just get her advise on things. I never did when she was alive. I just dont know how to cope. So, how do you?

Answers:
I'm sorry for your loss...don't be hard on yourself for having trouble letting go. It happens...there will be those that don't understand...just try to ignore them. As far as coping...just take it one day at a time.

I would suggest you could get a note book and journal your feelings...also write letters to her. Tell her how you're doing in your life...it's possible that she's trying to contact you. Yes, I do believe in that. Just before you go to sleep at night.write in your journal a question you want to ask her.keep pen and paper by your bed. When you first wake up...grab it and start writing whatever you can remember. Do this for a while, maybe few weeks. It might help.

Please do not buy one of those books that tell you it can decipher your dream. Most of them are garbage.

If this doesn't help...you may contact me...I may be able to put you in touch with someone that can help. I don't mean some type of doctor either.

Good luck

prayer changes everything.

i lost my mom 5yrs ago
and still miss her daily
time makes it a little easier but missing seems to never go away
good luck

Find someone to talk to. Therapists. You need to talk this through and figure out what is really going on. You will be able to get some closure to the death and how to move on in your life.

you dont. you just try living one day at a time. i lost my mom in 2003. and i still see her on holidays and her birthday. all you can do is live your life and try not thinking about her, i know how hard it is, every time i go to the cementary i see my mom.

First I would like to say that I am sorry to hear about the death of your grandmother. I too was very saddened when my Grammy died. I didn't see her as much as I should have. She was in a nursing home for years and I didn't go to see her as I should have. Then when she died I felt horribly guilty. She died in 1998. It does get easier but the anniversary and birthdays and holidays are still the hardest. I would talk to my grammy even after she died. I believe she could hear me even though I know I didn't hear her talk back. I would remember that she always loved me and that she knew I loved her. It is sad that sometimes, after the death of someone that you love that we don't realize all of the things that we "should" have done or said until after they are gone. But your Nona knew that you loved her even with all of the family problems.

Continue to grieve her death but also remember the good times. I am sure you can. I wish you luck. It will get easier in time. Also pray and ask God to help you through this grieving. He will hear you.

Take care.

Getting over the death of someonw who died. How do you cope?.?

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