Does he have symptoms of depression?
Question:
Since Saturday night, in the beginning of our calls he seems happy then his emotion declines and there's silence. This happened late last April. Along with firing back comments, getting upset with me quickly, lack of intrest in activities, being indecisive, eating late, not sleeping, and seeming gloomy/down.
In mid December his mother passed away (her birthmonth and name is April), he's going to be in his third year of college.
I asked him how he got out of his first emotion drop in April and he didn't know. Then asked what he thought triggered it this time, again he didn't know.
Any suggestions?
Answers:
Yes, he's depressed. He needs to see a counselor/therapist. But if he won't, then there isn't anything you can do. If he continues to get worse, you may have to end the relationship. I know, you don't want to do that and would also be afraid that would make him worse, but I'm telling you, depression not only hurts the person who has it, it sucks the life out of everyone who loves and cares about them. You may have to walk away for yourself
Yeah he does. U've just described the main symptoms of depression.
Sounds like depression. If he won't go to a therapist, see if he will talk to his family doctor. Try to get him to talk to someone.
Sounds like depression. A person can only get help if they want it. The best thing for you to do is to love him, and try to be strong with him. A lot of people have issues against psychology, myself being one of them, but thats probably just a isolated issue. If you sit down and talk to him and and just be a good ear and a shoulder to cry on, maybe thats all he needs. Considering his mother has passed, I'm guessing that's his main issue. It may not even be depression he might just be sad and coping with loss. Many argue with me, but there is a difference between being sad and then being depressed.
Those are symptoms of depression, but only a doctor can diagnose for sure. There are treatments that do not include medication. I was really uncomfortable with the idea of medicine when I was first diagnosed, so I just used talk therapy. It's possible that this is "situational" depression (not a chemical imbalance) and talk therapy could be just the right treatment.
The important thing for you to do is to be the best listener you can, and encourage him to get help so that he can get better. This can be temporary.
Yea, I think he is depressed. May be due to the passing of his mother, and burnt out from college studies and going out with you. There is a possibility that he might be into something unwholesome. Examples like drugs, alcohol, porn, gambling, or visiting a pro. Well, you need to consult his father and his friends. Probably, he also needs a holiday where he can get some rest. Go to an idyllic place and sleep under a palm tree on a beach!
He sounds depressed. Medication is the main treatment for depression. Talk therapy can help. There are also books in the library on the subject of depression.
There is no reason to be opposed to depression medication as it is safe, effective and not addictive. Depression medication has helped millions of people get themselves and their lives back. It is probably one of the most important products every created by our society.
Hey There, Something very eye Opening happened with me and my Fiance tonight. I've been Noticing the Same sort of changes in him. Like usual we ended up arguing about it, but then the fight turned into a life changing conversation. I stopped Yelling and started listening. He Opened up to me and revealed that he just has no confidence in himself lately. He said that he has been Feeling Depressed and that he doesn't feel the Strength that he usual does. He Admitted that he felt as though he Wasn't Taking Care of the Things that are important in his life. He then Said that he doesn't feel like he is Doing what he Should for the People that he Loves. He then went on to say that sometimes he just feels Blank when he stares off, Void of Anything.
Sometimes i think everyone has to feel that way. Without knowing the Depression and feelings of doubt, the Good And Strong Feelings of accomplishment would just be bland and meaningless. I'm sure we have all felt Depression at one point or another.
My Guess is that your Boyfriend May Feel that he Should have done more to show her that he Loved her and Cared for her. I'm Sure April Knew that he Loved her and that she had no worries about his Feelings Towards her, but he May feel that maybe he Didn't Do Enough and now there is no time left to make up for it. Try to Spend time Together, you and him, with his Relatives. Family is Very Important. It is the Only Love that is Unconditional. He may feel Alone now without that Unconditional Love from his Mother. Maybe Spending more time With his Family Together will show him that there is Still Plenty of that love still There for him.
I responded to my Fiance by telling him how i see him. When i look into his eyes I see a Light and a Strength that i have never seen before. I then went on to tell him how much i believe in him and that a change is needed. A minor change in routine and at home always makes a difference. As for your Personal Relationship with him I suggest changing something little in your routines. For Example, if you and him go to Dinner and a Movie more Often than doing anything else, try something exciting and new that both of you will enjoy. Me and my Fiance had the idea of filming a Intamate, Exotic Video of Ourselves. That is only one small change that will change the mood of one night. From there just take it one night at a time, one idea at a time, don't try to do to much in a short amount of time. Try to Ask more Subtle Questions about what he wants to do and what he might be Interested in. Find out what Goals and Dreams he is Hiding inside that he always wanted to do, but never had the time or money.
He may Be having some Issues with his own Immortality. Everyone has there own way of handling things. In my Opinion, the Best way of letting him Get past it is with time. Time Heals all Wounds, i believe that will all my Heart. If you feel Like you Need him to Talk to you about His Mother remember not to Push. Everyone is Different with There Reactions and how they feel about opening up to Questions Like those. I'm Sure when he is Ready he Will come to You!!
One more Word of Advice, Try to make him Feel more confident about his Choices. If he Makes a Mistake, Forgive and Forget. Mistakes are a way of Learning and Expressing Emotions. Right now, More than Anything, I'm Sure he Needs to feel Strong and empowered.
-Catherine
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