Have you ever had rage and anger against someone and didn't know why?


Question:
I have a nephew that has been on and off of drugs for the past 2 years. He is 19 years old now. His mom, does everything she can to help him and is very patient with him. He has agreed to go to a teen retreat for 6 months to help with his problem drug and to get counseling. He gets so enraged if she ask him any questions or tries to help him in anyway. He says he doesn't know why himself but he stays mad at her and gets so furious and enraged at even thinking about her. He admits she has only been good to him and he can't explain his feelings. Has anyone here ever been angry at someone whether they had a reason or not that just seemed to consume them to the point they couldn't let go and didn't know why?
If so, what was the reason (if there was one), what did you do and how did you ever get past it?
He doesn't really seem to have a problem talking with others, just his mom.

Answers:
Maybe he has secret anger in his subconscious mind and he blames her for what happened to him. Maybe he hates her for not being more strict on him and he wouldnt have done the drugs. If she was there more beforehand.. if she noticed earlier.. It might all be held up inside.. I think he should tell someone and get some help. It's VERY good that he stopped and is clean but he needs to let someone know what he's going through. It could drive him crazy and make him guilty and he might end up back on the addiction. If ur close to him.. talk to him and let him know that he should get help.
Yes i have gotten mad at people when i didnt know why but it was some middle school thing ... idk. It went away...
But that's more serious.
good luck =)
no sir
I suggest he seek professional help for his anger. Sometimes a therapist can ask the right questions that will get to the root of the anger. God Bless!
Deja Vu lol... I used to be the same exact way almost to the T. I used to get extremely angry at my mom, while I was on drugs, but It went away after I gave up that lifestyle. Tell your sister that things will get better. Just help your nephew get off the drugs. That is the most important step.
Yes I do but i reckon it still come down to me, the root problem.
I was the same way when i was on drugs, but i cant say that it is related directly to the drugs, b/c i have been clean for a long time now and for several years after i stopped using i still had massive amounts of anger towards my step dad. About a year or so ago i found out that i am bi-polar, the dr. said that's why. I have tried several medications but nothing seemed to work. I sat down and had a very serious talk with my Dr. and she suggested therapy. It has worked wonders on my anger as well as various other parts of my life. So, the jist of the story, I had to make the choice to go to therapy and I am controlling my bi-polar. Its a choice I had to make myself, if someone would have pushed me into therapy or medications or going to the Dr. I would have resisted. You shouldn't push him, but calmly advise him of his options. I'm not saying or diagnosing your nephew with bi-polar, but by the way you were describing him, it sounds like what I went through.
Good Luck!
Well, we all still don't know what causes him to feel enraged towards his own mother yet.

But the clear point is, she's his mother!

When a parent is about to pass away, their children will ask themselves whether they have been good to their parent or not...

Just let your nephew think about it, so he will feel some guilt towards his thoughts and feelings soon...
I feel like that. It just feels as if my whole life is falling apart and, as our society have taught us, we only show our true feelings to our closest family. I feel like this towards my parents and my fiancé, to the point where I want to attack him (my fiancé) physically. I won't do that though, it's not in my nature at all. There's no obvious reason for this anger and I don't know how to get rid of it. It's driving me crazy!
I will pray for him and her and then for myself, because we all need help.
Good luck!
Perhaps he knows why but has not come to terms with it or hasn't really given it the thought it deserves.

If he has been on street drugs he may be feeling side effects.

Mother also represents authority and we sometimes have difficulty standing up to our parents questions.

They know all the right questions to ask their children.

There may be issues that mother and son have not resolved. So he feels angry because he knows about those issues that either one has chosen not to talk about.

In any event, Mother and son need to work it out on their own.

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i feel like that sometimes with my mum, i think it is to do with childhood and how the person has been raised, if his mum asks lots of questions and has always been a bit TOO involved then yes he will feel like that about her, especially with the drug abuse he may be self medicating and tryin to take out his problems with the drugs, also takin out his problems out on his mother, often when someone helps someone and is ther for them the person who is getin the help tends to treat that person really badly and thinks less of them even thou they are helpin, they cant help it they just get annoyed especially if that person seems to expect more or wants more out of them.

i think the person just needs a break from their mother and i reckon counsellin wil help but lettin the person have their own life and feel they have some control even if their mother isnt takin control just so the person is more independant.
if he has problems talkin with his mum you have to understand their is more to this than meets the eye and sometimes a parent can be very difficult but seems ok to other ppl (ppl always blame the teen) perhaps the mother needs some help (parentin tips etc) rather than the child.he seems to be goin thru similiar to what i was and i had to just ignore my mum in the end caus she bothered me soo much
even now.. i cant
so i better not to talk with
him/her
Yep same thing here. Had periods of rage where I'd just wanted to go off the wall and hurt people for no apparent reason. If I thought someone would wrong me in any way, I'd let them know. Eventually I had to go see a "crazy" doctor as I call them and it seems to be working. Heavily medicated though.
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