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I've been the same way before. It could be a form of social anxiety. You think that people are constantly "watching" and judging you all the time. I know how problematic those feelings can be. If you want, you can message me and talk about it. Describe more of the feelings you've been having and the types of thoughts you encounter while out in public. Chances are, I've had them before too. I wish you the best.
I completely understand how you feel. I used to be just like you. I would sit in class all day and at lunch, I stayed in class to help the teachers because I didn't know how to talk to the other kids. I would get so nervous in class if the teacher called on me. If I wanted to say something in class, I would think about it the night before and rehearse it.
What cured me was high school. I transferred to a school out of the district and I decided to be more outgoing. It was so hard at first, but totally worth it.
If your case is more severe than mine, you'll know if you start feeling nervous even when you have to leave the house or if you see someone looking at you. When it gets to the point that you're too scared to go to a restaurant because you have to speak to the waiter, it's best to seek professional speech therapy or another form of help.
Join a club that interests you. Avoid a drug pushing counselor. And the good stuff too, avoid those drugs too.
Well I mean, i'm no expert but what I can say is.. You only live once and trust me high school goes by pretty quickly. Talk to whoever you can, be yourself. There's bound to be plenty of people that will like you. The only thing I regret is not talking to more people when I attended high school.
If you have nothing to lose, which seems to be the case then everything is to gain.
Some self-esteem issues could be involved but there's many ways you can build on this. I mean for a start a simple search on google will bring up many programs that will build your self-esteem.
As I said though, i'm no expert.
Just trying to help.
Man! Was there my whole high school life! It wuz awful - I swear! You sound like my past - it's scary.
Listen, you are not alone - ur parents have never dealt with this so they "just don't git it" - don't blame them - it's great that u can recognize ur feelings now.
I certainly cannot diagnose u, but know u r not alone - and u need 2 find sum 1 u can "really" talk to an let ur feelings out.
Really, don't just deal - speak up an take care of urself.
Good luck baby - - I mean that!
maybe you dint like what they are talking about your above it i am too like this i think my mind just thinks about other things then most people i don't care what Paris Hilton was doing or what car i drive etc i think about bigger things and most people just cant grab what i am talking about so i don't try it used to bother me but they seem really unhappy when i am happy and i don't want it to rub off on me . i try really hard to keep the few friends who understand me and new ones come along only rarely so i keep them try hanging out with smart people that are into science or art not what jeans are on sale
oh man yuor going thru the same thing i did if noone likes you or cannot accept you for who you are then the hell with them you dont need friends but dont give up somebody will come along and talk to you dont worry some one willl come by and speak to you dont feel bad like i said if no one can be yuor friend then dont worry about them because those are not friends ok your special ok bye.
I am a shy person too...especially when i was young i was scared to talk but don't let that fear get to you, it takes time to get out of shyness im shy but not as shy as before i was just like you...Don't be afraid of saying something stupid and don't take what people say is making fun or insulting you if they do then forget them atleast you tried and the more you try the more that shyness will slowly break away and you WILL make friends...atleast try
it seems to me that you have very low self-esteem. you are overly self-conscious that is why you don't like to interact with others. if you want to correct this problem, you can try therapy but this problem can be overcome even without therapy. what is important is that you have a strong desire to change, a willingness and longing to recover from this. all of us have the capacity to alter the course of our lives. We can take steps that will result in restored hope, stimulated motivation, and renewed confidence: steps that will guarantee a fresh outlook for the future and a new outcome for our lives. that is your choice. i hope you will choose to enhance and better your live. go out, interact. once you start doing so you will learn that life is much better when shared with others.
oh honey, i used to have the same problem. you are so not alone! but when i went into highschool i did a total 180. what did it was a girl named michelle. in junior high i admired her outgoing personality from far away and always wished i could be as loud confident and funny as she was. one day at the begining of my freshman year she started talking to me and eventually announced that we were going to hang out after school whether i liked it or not. she seriously wouldnt take no for an answer. after that we were inseperable.
although we are no longer friends, i learned so much from her and am no longer shy. she taught me how to speak up for myself and to literally not give a hoot at all about what others think.
youll come out of your shell soon, it just takes some time and the right group of friends. i know its easier said than done, but if you stay positive about the situation then it should come easier than you think. =]
good luck!
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