I haven't been myself lately, I can't figure out why I am unconnected...?

Question:

All the sudden, I felt like I was going into a depression, but instead of letting it take the best of me I fought it. This is a normal part of my life. But now, I have completely lost interest in everything. My sex drive is gone, nothing is funny, I'm not happy or sad. But from what I am told, I'm just straight up mean. And I don't quite understand it, or know how to go along dealing with this. Oh, and I did just start using a different kind of birth control pill within the last couple weeks which is contributing to this also. I used to party alot and use drugs all the time, but I met a man about 4 years ago that I loved enough to stop doing it all. So I have been sober 4 years, and I guess I kinda feel like I'm peddling backwards. I'm actually starting to think that I was alot better of a person when I did drugs. I wasn't so high strung, bitchy, mean and so serious about everything. I don't have the money to go back to a counsler. What do i do??

Answers:
I have questions for you: are you sober like, going to meetings sober? Or are you abstinent from drugs and alcohol without support. If you don't have the support, your emotions will always default to the way you used to think and feel. It never fails.

If you do go to meetings and have a good support network, then this is just a part of your growth process in sobriety. I went through the same thing at about 4&1/2 years sober. I stopped going to meetings and I became an angry bastard, worse than I was when I was drinking. Luckily I got back to meetings before I drank, got the support I needed, and the emotional growth continued.

Also, if you stopped using for some guy, you probably didn't grow emotionally like you would if you got sober for yourself first, and then got into a relationship.

Finally, don't underestimate the power of the pill. Talk to your gyno and see if you can change it up.

Sounds like you are in recovery. Also that you are numbed out both of which I can relate to. You are only mean because you were used to the drugs altering your head when you needed something. Now you have to learn how to deal with your anger and also figure out where it is coming from. You arent going backwards this is "growing pains" so to speak. I quit drinking and bar hopping and I miss the old me but the old me wasnt going anywhere in her life. So keep at what you are doing things will get better and if you need a support group or a counselor go for it.

you can go to your local out reach center, and they can help you for no charge. the only thing is you have to do a little research to find a facility that does this in your area.

also, you need to re-evaluate your life. it sounds like drugs was your escape, you should try and find something productive that you can do to escape. like volunteer work, or going back to school. ask yourself what you want to do to make your life better.

looks like u lost urself
ur just not being urself anymore like something or someone has changed u to something else
try to find it in ur heart to 4give urself of what u've done
and find who u used to be, try seeking ur friends for help
tell them u are sorry
and they can help u to find the old u
stick with friends more and try not to be alone
stay with family members they will both help to cheer u up
i just hope u become urself again
regards
Arvin

Never start drinking or doing drugs again. Take some time to yourself. Sit in a comfortable chair or lay in your bed and mediate. Figure out why you are depressed! Think about everything that is going on in your life. Close your eyes while doing it and see if that helps!

I haven't been myself lately, I can't figure out why I am unconnected...?

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