Does anyone have any tips on overcoming low self-esteem / shyness?
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Not any easy one.
Depends a lot on your personality i think.
This is just a personal thing so not suggesting i know it all?
I think for me, if i can look in the mirror and be happy with at least one thing i see, or more relative, know about myself that i wouldnt change. Then your half way there!
Opinions come and go< others >! But your always there. No one knows you like you know yourself and you should take comfort in that and your individuality.
What others think does not dictate your thinking or your life or even your own issues.unless you let it?
You have love from family, friends for a very good reason.
Has nothing to do with conforming to someone elses ideal, but comes from you being the person you are.
Accept your good and bad sides and dont shy away from the stuff you dont like, embrace it cause it all makes you the person you are.
If you can learn to accept what you are inside, then in time you will accept who you are and what makes your light shine for others. Remember people love you for a reason not for an agenda<Well some will i suppose, but then if they use you then they are lacking something you have> Strange as it sounds i take comfort in that.
If others make you feel this way, why not get a little angry as they have no right to make you feel less than you are, that in itself is defined by you and no one else! If you look at the reverse, why do people do that to others? Mainly because they have don't have enough brains or personality of their own. Those kind of people dont have the courage to look in the mirror and admit what is there....id bet any money that you do though! That takes a special person, trust me!
Learn to laugh, be strong inwardly, don't force yourself to be something your not, be self reliant but not at the cost of asking for support when you need it.
Most of all id say be honest with yourself.
Take each day as it comes.
Look to the solution and not the problem.
Like they say life is what you make it....but it has to start with you being happy with you.
May take time but it will be the best investment you ever made!!
Lol, apologies, ramble over!
Take care.
Well I do. When I was in high school straight up to my first job interview I was a shy person and had a very low self-esteem. I am still am a tinsy winsy shay. I guess everybody has some of this install in them. Try getting involve in extra-curricular activities, volunteer work, and going out with friends. This will open you up and bring up your self esteem higher than you expected. If you keep to yourself, you will never break out this habit, its going to be scary at first but you'll get over it.
Get a job that forces you to interact with people. I worked as a tech for a year or so at the local hospital, and I had to be chipper to work with my patients--they were old, they were unhappy, and they were miserable when they saw me come through their door.
Interacting with my patients and the nursing staff as equals gave me the confidence I needed. :)
take part in a drama course. I have just finished GCSEs and after my 2yr drama course I feel so much more confident at talking to large groups of people, and voicing my views to people I dont know very well. I have always been a quiet person, and after moving to a completely new school halfway through the academic year my self esteem was shattered. Now I find it second nature to be confident and put myself forward!
However I have always been interested in drama, and you may not be, so talking to a psychiatrist might be best if you dont like acting. A good one will find the root of the problem for you, and help you move forward.
I used to be really shy and have low self-esteem then I started to realize that people have different insecurities about themselves. I just tell myself either I the possiblity of seeing these people again is really slim so F*CK IT. or just think about the best trait that I have and people dont have it so it boost up my self-esteem
It depends. Are you refferring to an adult, a teenager, a child? I would say if it is yourself and you are an adult or young adult, you have to work very hard at retraining your brain. You need to realize that others are only people just like yourself, they are not better than you are. You need to point out your good qualities even right them down on paper and remind yourself of them over and over again. Give yourself credit as a person. Once you can do this you will feel better but you have to continue to do it because when you don't it will be very easy for your mind to slip right back into its old way of thinking. Remember you are unique and special, everyone is the their own way. You have something to offer others. This is not easy and you have to work hard at retraining your brain from that "stinking thinking". Try very hard not to think of how others preceive you, if they don't like you or what you have to offer then they are not worth your time.
depends whats making you feel that way.try find what makes you feel like that and try find a solution.everyone is unique dont worry what people think of you just let see who you are and what you can give to the world make your mark!
Just hold your head up high and pretend that you have high self-esteem.Pretty soon you will begin to believe it.
Take up affirmations,learn about positive thinking,learn simple relaxation techniques,help others,do voluntary work,get a paid job.Be active with a hobby-hope that helps.
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