What can you do if youve had a very traumatic life including being victimised, bullying,abuse & you still?
Question:
my psychiatrist called it a distrust of people rather than paranoia because of what people put me through, and what ive been through.
im 30 now, have borderline personality disorder, never made any friends in life...my psychiatrist refuses to perscribe meds because he said the ones that work are very addictive.and the ones that arn't addictive dont work...
i have low moods everyday, feeling hopless and empty, my moods rapidly shift throughout the day from feeling sort of coping to feeling despairing & hopeless..i have high anxiety and panic which causes me to only go out when i need to..i have feelings of anger & rage ive had for a long time...all these problems started at 15..my psyche has refered me to psychotherapy, iam native & french & eventually want to emigrate from britain..
however i live a lonely life in a one bedroom flat & i still think theres people outthere against me
Answers:
Let me tell you..I have felt that way many times. The only thing you can do is find people who stick by you because you are yourself. Don't feel like the world is against you..we are on your side. Don't live your life not living. You only get one chance, one opportunity to make things right and fulfill everything. Honey, stop worrying about what everybody else thinks and if you are being judged. The truth is, everyone is judged everyday. You just got to find the people who see you for you.
Goodluck and if you ever need to talk then just email me
aprily1kd@yahoo.com
people will always be out there looking for u to crash and burn, so fly higher than all of them, show them that ur besster and stronger. ive been bullied and abused and harrased. one thing that helps me is god and also dont be afraid of ppl if sumone acts like there ur friend trust them. b there friend. start goin out to clubs. treat life like the party it is!
Your post doesn't say whether or not you've seen the therapist, nor what he or she had to say. I'm not a psychiatrist, but I'm a former mental health counselor. I think maybe you should try seeing a different psychiatrist. I question the validity of this statement: "[my psychiatrist] said the [medications] that work are very addictive.and the ones that arn't addictive dont work..." This is simply not true. There are a number of very good, reliable medications that are both effective and non-addictive.
You've spent half your lifetime feeling miserable. Don't continue down that road. Go see a different psychiatrist. The psychotherapist is also a good idea, so if you haven't yet seen one, go see one. You don't have to keep feeling the way you do. There are tools you can use to help yourself feel better. But it's up to you to go find them. Good luck!
The reality is you have some serious issues that need intensive therapy. I have been made fun of and ridiculed my entire life. I was adopted as an infant, I do not look like anyone. My siblings are all adopted, but they all resemble each other. I am a plus size woman, and I am out spoken. I tell people the things they don't want to hear, after they ask my opinion. I try not to be cruel, but sometimes they take the things I say the wrong way. As a high school student, I had no friends. I was a loner. I realized my opinion of myself was the determining factor. I made some changes for the better. I now have a many friends and in fact have spoken to many from high school and most say to me that I am the most positive person they know. I still speak the whole truth and nothing but the whole truth. Like it or not. I became a successful business owner and have made a lot of myself. I still have doubts about myself, but, I am my worst critic. I was a really angry person for many years, but, I now look at the cup as half full rather then half empty. I hope you can become a positive person with not so many fears and angers. I was made fun of for everything, the way I spoke, looked, dressed, lived, and anything else they could find. Let others think as they will, you can only control how it makes you feel.
I agree with unclemax0. If you have been with the same therapist for quite some time, find another one. From everything I have heard and learned for myself, if the doctor can't help you, it's time to move on. There are many meds available for depression, anger, etc. Prozac is one of the more common. A hormone imbalance can also play a part in one's feelings of depression and anger. As with any medication, there may be side affects, but not always. The doctor needs to prescribe the medication that best suits you.
You need to focus on what works for you. I like to watch some silly shows on TV; I also like to watch shows where the criminal gets caught; I like "Criminal Minds" and "Numbers".
It took me till my 40's to be able to get a handle on my problems left over from all my mothers abuse. I now have a permenant restraining order on her. That helps.
I also refuse to let bullies win; it seems I"m a bit compulsive about stopping other bullies. I don't think that is a bad thing as long as I am careful not to draw violence.
I refuse to be like her, and I refuse to allow others to treat me as she did. I still have cling on "friends" (who she had bribed in the past to torment me and report back to her). I keep an eye on those (keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer).
There are always going to be people that will be jealous of something you have and they don't; whether it be an item or talent. So just accept that and go beyond it. Be the best person you can be and reach out to others DESPITE what has been done to you and how you have been treated.
Doing things such as "random acts of kindness" always fills my heart. When I do these things, the anger dissipates just a bit more.
Turn to God as well - although I can't say I respect ANY religion, I do love God and God is Love (even in any religion).
Also realize as Mr. Spock did in Star Trek; humans are often NOT logical. So look at things that sting a bit, and laugh at them, as laughter is the best revenge.
God Bless You.
Get a different psychiatrist. Borderline personality and a distrust of people is treatable with medication. These specific medications are not addictive.
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