I have a sister who is like a best friend to me and now she is leaving.How do I disconnect myself?
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I hope that this is tactful...but you should find something to occupy your time with... be happy for your sister, that she is going to broaden her horizons and help others... if she truly is your best friend, & I am so sure you love her even more than that, wish her all the best and send her on her way... read books, join clubs, start reorganizing your life, with or without friends, do something to better yourself, while your sister is away, and you guys will look at this years from now and laugh and rejoice as how you both have grown... Try joining the church... can't go wrong with that.
just chill out and find a new friend...your only 14
DA!! write her letters!!
I LOST MY SISTER (MY BESTFRIEND) 3 YEARS AGO! SHE PAST AWAY AND WE FOUND HER IN HER BED! SO JUST BE GLAD YOU CAN CALL HER AND KNOW SHES NOT GONE COMPLETLY!!
Unfortunately, there is no easy way to let go. And, you may not be able to accept it when she leaves. When the time comes, just remember that such feelings are completely normal. If I were to give you advice, I would say to try to find any way you can to accept the fact that she is going. Also try to remember that she is not going forever! If you two are great friends then she will make an effort to come and visit you as well! But if this is what your sister wants to do, then you should be supportive and believe in her.
You dont neccessarily have to disconnect yourself.
Im not really sure what youre going through. but Im sure its tough.
Try finding someone you think you can really trust. Or join some kind of organization where you can make friends. If its something you really like, it wont be too harf to find people like you. I think you'll be fine. Its gonna be a challenge, but I dont think you should give up
If you get depressed that easily maybe you should see a doctor and they could help you with that.
Write to her everyday. I know it's not the same but it's better than just letting it out into a journal, like people say to do. At least you'll be talking to your sister still, and you'll have her letters back to look forward to. If she has computer access at all it will be even easier. YOu'll get used to it eventually and it will make your time together even more special. Besides, that's a lot of time she has alone there. she may just change her mind and come home to try out something else.
think positive yaar.....
think ur circle had become...huge.....
u will make friends....
Why disconnect yourself. Friendship is a spiritual thing not just about the things you get out of the relationship like having someone to talk to. Be happy for your sister. she needs you to be proud of her and be her friend now. As time goes on maybe you will find another true friend, but keep in mind a lot of people never find one true friend in their whole life. Lots of people to talk to is not the same as a friend, So, interact with your church members at functions and don't be shy about saying hello to people without expecting anything in return. Stay positive and you will attract positive. You will be just fine without your sister physically being here. Now spend a little time getting to know yourself and love yourself. Good luck to you and your sister.
well first of all, it's good that you recognize your emotional limitations/issues. but it will hurt more to "disconnect" from her to avoid getting hurt. take my life as an example: i've had five different foreign exchange student live in my room with me in bunk beds. we got so close we called each other sisters and shared every aspect of our lives together. but after the school year was over, they had to leave. with the first couple, i tried distancing from them, but all i did was hurt their feelings by acting like all that sisterhood was for nothing. ya know what? enjoy your sister for the last few weeks. go swimming, play mini golf, go shopping, go on a road trip. do lots of fun stuff with her while you have her! and then when she leaves, be sad about it, get the crying out of your system otherwise the bottled up feelings will spiral you into a depression the likes of which took me months to resurface from. and after she leaves, get involved. play a sport, volunteer with a hospital, animal shelter or marathon. pick something you like doing and you'll find people like you to spend time with. nothing will replace your sister, but having more people to talk to will help, and i'm sure your sister would want you to make new friends. (and on a lighter note: buy lots of cute/fun stationary and write her everyday for a week even if it's one line and send her a big letter every monday! everyone loves getting mail!)
Its apart of life i have three brothers and no sister, i don't know what is it like to grow with a sister or a girl. My biggest and favorite brother was going to collage so i told him to go to a collage near home. He did so now he is 22 November and he is still living with us. I don't want him to leave us until we all are adult.
You dont disconnect yourself, you accept that she has things she needs to do in life in order to ensure a good life, and you keep in touch, and see her when she visits. Disconnecting is not going to be healthy for either one of you.
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