Do former alcoholics have biger tempers and yell more than regular people?
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I agree with the person that said a "dry-drunk" may.
That means that even though they have stopped the actual drinking they haven't done anything about their addictive thinking.
Basically they are still living a miserable existence and haven't begun to work out any of the things about themselves that they can't stand.
http://www.whatwinnersdo.com is my personal addiction recovery site. This is where I work out my problems and hopefully people are there can identify.
No why would they??
I've found the opposite to be true. I know a lot of former alcoholics and they seem to be more aware of themselves and their actions. However, if they just stopped drinking and still really crave alcohol, I bet they'd be cranky.
Ony when they"re on a "dry-drunk"
remember everyone one is different. some may some may not have worse tempers.
My brother does this... He is a pain in the *** at times .
There is no such thing as a "former" alcoholic. Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic.
You are referring to a "recovering" alcoholic.
From my own experience, it can go either way. Most, if not all, alcoholics drink because they want to numb out and not deal with feelings or reality. They use it as an escape.
When they stop drinking/using, they discover those feelings they couldn't deal with before -- but now they can't numb out. They have to learn how to deal with their feelings and live life on life's terms.
Therefore, either they learn how to handle their feelings in an appropriate manner or they act out and yell a lot.
Myself, it takes a lot for me to get angry but at least now I can recognize the feeling of anger and usually deal with it in a responsible fashion.
Hope I didn't confuse you.
We are "regular people". We bleed red and everything!
As to the temper of a recovering alcoholic, early in recovery (first year or so) we are often irritable and moody. But if we work a good program of recovery and don't have other psychiatric conditions (i.e. bipolar disorder) we are not unusually temperamental.
Prior to recovering, I often found myself restless, irritable and discontent, suffering from untreated alcoholism. It got worse AFTER I gave up the sauce - in AA. I wasn't recovered and since I had only the fellowship to help keep me dry and had no Program, I wasn't recoverING either.
What I learned, the hard way, is that things like "Double up on your meetings?" (To feel better) “Put the plug in the jug", "Just don’t drink" "Keep coming back” and all the other AA slogans were not a treatment for alcoholism. In fact most of them weren’t part of AA at all, but simply rehab jargon that had leached into the fellowship.
Just being dry does not overcoming negative feelings - it does not help with anger, fear, resentment or because as an alcoholic, when I stop drinking I do NOT get better.
I get WORSE!
Generally, alcoholics who say they are still recoverING - aren't. And Alcoholics who truly RECOVER are no longer a prey to misery, depression and irrational behaviors - making everyone around them just as miserable and depressed.
They react sanely and have a new way of life which doesn’t breed unhappiness around them any longer. An abstinent alcoholic who is yelling and mad and flaring his temper HAS NOT found a solution to his problem. He has only eliminated his original solution: Alcohol – and is most likely worse off than he ever was inside. Still restless, irritable and discontent. I do not anyone having to live with such a sufferer - because that sufferer was me at one time. It sucks eggs!
There is no psychology, counseling or behavior modifications that have ever helped a real alcoholic overcome his malady and bedevilments - since real alcoholics suffer from an illness which ONLY a spiritual experience will conquer. Here’s an article on what we know from experience to work – I hope you find this helpful:
http://gourl.org/sewc
Peace,
Danny S
http://recoveredalcoholic.blogspot.com...
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