How should i come out?
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Until you can learn to trust
your life will be limited.
Counselors work, coaching people toward personal growth, social growth and relational growth. Maybe you could live a fuller life if you are more genuine with others.
you need to be honest with yourself. if people really love( freinds,family) you they should love you for who you really are. no exceptions. if you dont tell anyone, things could be worse. and trust me thier are other guys out thier in your same exact situation, tell someone, people should still love you for who you are, and if they dont, you will find out who your real loved ones and freinds are.
First Justin find other gays some here on answers on the lgbt section I think its under cultures this should 've been put there but ok there's the bars , & MCC church there are many sites on line planetout for 1 You will then get a lot of answers & support . contact me personally I'll get u more
Be true to who are and what you are. If you think the people around you wouldnt understand then they are probably not worth it in the first place. Anyhow for all you know some of them may be accepting and already sense your gay... but sometimes people wait for you to come out to them, but i guess you will never know unless you try.
Best of luck to you. hugs!!
P.S try posting under the LGBT section which is under the society and cultures - cultures - LGBT.
Hey there, the girl called IM Okay you're okay asked us to come over here and help you out.
LISTEN TO ME. This is a very hard thing and it's going to be the most difficult choice in your life. Okay? You have to be ready to risk losing people and maybe even people you think you can't live without.
YOU HAVE TO DO THIS, regardless of whoever's reaction you're afraid of. All of that tension, that rope around your heart, that feeling in your stomach - it will GO AWAY! You have to push everyone else's reaction out of your decision. The people that will be your true friends and truly love you will be there even after your coming out.
Good luck, honey, and if you need to talk, feel free to e-mail me at gochefs7777@yahoo.com. We'll welcome you to the GLBT side of Y!A! XOXO!
love,
Bill
Unfortunately you'll probably want to make some preparations before coming out. It's always wise to prepare for the worst and hope for the best. That means making sure your housing situation is safe. That means getting yourself to the point that you can take a little hostility. Be smart about where you come out. If you know the person may react violently, do it some place public so that they either choose self restraint or someone's able to call the police fast if they don't. If you think you're ready to come out, then go for it. You may loose a few friends, but anyone lost was not worth having around. You should at least feel comfortable and safe around your friends and not have to worry like you do now. Also, there's plenty of other more accepting people out there to make friends with. I wish ya the best!
Oh my dear fabulous,
Where can i start? I too am a gay man in hiding. I want for everyone to know, but am also afraid of how they will react. First of all, let me say you have taken a major step by simply coming here for help. And there is plenty more. The LGBT section has been wonders of comfort to me.
It is a great relief to have someone who will support you when they know, and it will litterally feel like a huge weight has been lifted off your chest (trust me I know).
But you need to be comfortable with who you come out to. Start with your favorite person, best friend, or someone who is closest to you. You need to fill that great connection before you come out so that you can have a good idea of how they will react. You may have to make some harsh judgements first to decide who to tell, and who not to. You may have to consider things like religion, and you can be proven wrong later, but later is better than the pain it can cause without a support system to be there physically with you.
You need to do it when it feels right to you. Now I'm not saying wait for that perfect moment, because you will probably do like i did, and then there is never that perfect moment... so you have to just decide when is good enough, not perfect.
I of course have a long story to tell, and I would be glad to share it with you if it will help.
Just remember: YOU are NOT ALONE. YOU ARE LOVED, and YOU ARE FABULOUS.
There is such a great community of people that you can find on-line here to talk with. We are here for you.
If you would like to chat more, please e-mail me. Don't hessitate. My name is John. You can e-mail me at jwoodard85@yahoo.com
Lots of love to you
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