Trying to cope living 800 miles from my familly please help me to find ways to cope?
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Busy is good, email and phone are good. Finding new groups and people are good.
Tomorrow is Saturday. In a really big city, there are at least a dozen volunteer groups that could use your help. Go to Habitat for Humanity (.org) and find the chapter(s) in your area. Scope out their sites and find where tomorrow's build will be. Buy some work gloves at Lowes tonight so you'll be ready. Don't worry, if you've never built anything, they'll give you easy jobs. For next week, go to craigslist for your town and go to volunteers (upper left side). Serve meals or handout brochures or something.
Try meetup.com for your new town. There are many groups: nudists who love sushi; men who knit; supporters of every known presidential contender, 9/11 conspiracy nuts, Bible readers, walkers, bikers--both kinds, probably even a group for new people.
Try to keep yourself busy with work and making new friends.
The hardest thing about living in a new city is dealing with the loneliness, so start trying to meet people. Join a gym, learn a martial art, join a church, or join some other kind of club to help with this. Sometimes community ed has some interesting stuff. Make an effort at work, too. Also, one thing that helped me was to plan a trip home (in 6 months or whatever), so that I had that to look forward to when I was feeling really home sick. Lots of phonecalls and emails, too! Hope you feel better...
Thanks for reading my poem in the other question you answered. Its nice to know Im not the only one going through this. Thanks
Internet and phone are real blessings in this case. Snailmail is also very nice, since it takes more time to sit down and write a nice letter than to type an email, and getting a letter in your mailbox once in a while instead of bills is really an amazing feeling.
Start going out, adapting to your surroundings. Choose a nice cafe or bar or activity that will make you feel great at your new place. I've been there, and it is normal to feel this way, and it gets better, trust me.
actually there is nothing you can do to get rid of feeling home sick. i know this because i live 5000 mile away from family and friends. i got stationed in Germany. its really hard to adapt to a new place. so go clubbing, join a group of some sort, and talk to people. you can meet some really cool people, i have.. but i still feel home sick everyday. and the longer I'm gone the worse it is...
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