Depressed but can't cry? What is wrong with me?
Question:
WHAT can I do to get the tears started?? Please help!
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This is a situation that no onion can help.I have had times like yours when I felt like I needed a good cry but the tears would not come..The stress of you worrying about not being able to cry isn't helping you at all..First and foremost you need a good gut-wrenching stress relieving exercise to do..something like maybe getting out your pen and paper and writing EVERYTHING down, every thought that enters your head--write it down then when you can't write another word...sit and read it like a book, like maybe it is someone else's writing and see if that helps. Another exercise might be something like what helped me in a similar situation, I had a therapist who gave me access to a gym, handed me a tennis ball, and told me to go throw it against the wall as hard as I could throw and to keep doing it until I was so tired I couldn't run after the ball any longer.it worked, the more I threw the ball the harder the tears came and you talk about a great release.oh what a relief it was...I cried and washed all my bottled up hurts and anger and all that garbage right out of my system.
Hope I've said something or given you an idea that will work for you.
get some professional help..however what helped for me start trying to LAUGH real LOUD,louder and let it all come out.you will end up crying for sure
Go into a car (your own or somebody else's)... close the windows and doors, then scream with all your might. That should help you get started. I hope it will help you cry until you can't cry anymore.
Just get some sneakers on and start running aroudn your neighborhood. If it's a bad neighborhood, go to your room and start punching the feathers out of your pillow and throw the pillow against your wall.
maybe its the meds!? I dunno...
I know what it feels like tho...being depressed. I never had any problem with crying though. But I never wanted anyone to know...ya know.
Maybe just write in a diary, let stuff out. Or go to counciling or something!
See depression, stress, and anger management, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on pages 2, 7, and 4. Watch "Love Story".
watch forrest gump, it always kinda "gets" to me.
I've found that watching movies that trigger an emotional response will sometimes (not always) help to get the tears started. Then once they get started, they'll come pouring out.
Another thing I used to do was to roll up a wash cloth and bite down on it as hard as I possibly could, and somehow, this would release the tears. Those were some of the most wrenching and releasing cries I've ever had.
For me, these things only work if I'm alone...and if I'm in a "safe" place in life. It's hard to explain, but if a lot of other things are going on, my body (or mind) will not let the really strong emotions out no matter what I do because it isn't a safe time to do it. Sometimes, I just have to wait.
Exercise and physical movement or massage can also help the body release emotions. And talking to a trusted friend or therapist may also help bring locked-up feelings to the surface.
I hope you feel better soon.
P.S. Some medications can numb emotions more than others (I am not familiar with your medication and cannot comment on it), so if that could be a problem, you may want to talk to your doctor about trying something different.
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I don't think there is a sure-fire way because it's different for everyone. All anyone can really offer are suggestions. If the depression is getting worse (or not getting better), I recommend seeing a professional therapist if you're not already.
i couldnt cry for 3 years after my parents split. almost 4 years. i think i saw it as a sign if inner weakness and felt i had to be strong to take care of my mom who ended up being the one who cheated on my dad and split up my family in the first place. once i saw that it was a good thing to cry, and that even the strongest of people cry. i got myself to do it.
Try taking a few doses of the Homeopathic remedy Natrum Mur.
I had a lot of trouble with crying because my mother used to hit me when I cried. I had to go through a lot of therapy before I was able to freely cry. Then I started crying all the time. One of my counselors said I had a gift of tears.
Are you doing something to stop the crying - using some kind of substance - food, sex, anger?
Oh God ...I have same problem...I cant have extreme of any emotion...be it happiness....sadness..ev... in sex..i feel if i am alone in a desert and want to shout at top of my voice, i cant some thing holds back...I am a stage performer and have the voice to sing upto top notes but cant reach.voice and throat supports but some thing from mind cant leat me reach top note..
Only time i can shout is when i am in a rollar coaster...when i am not in my control..only thing that helps me some time to cry is a movie..or for me following my passion that is singing...when i sing on stage i tend to let loose...you alos identify your passion and get lost in that,...contact me with details .some tips..i may help.
i've had that all my life and now i have panic attacks whenever i can't cry. it's all the emotions bottled up that made me this way, please just think about letting the tears come, they will if you want them to. its what happened to me, nobody wants anything bad to happen to you and i dont want you ending up like i did. panick attacks are horrible, trust me. just let it out. pretend like you're crying and then it'll come when you realize you've done it. it's okay to cry. thats what i learned, but it was too late.good luck. =]
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well, maybe you have trained yourself so hard to keep it bottled up, you cant let it out. get some prof. help. that will help. and then try letting it out to yourself
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