Help?!? My best friend is addicted to internet chat!!?
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Whats wrong with that,people get addicted to Internet everyday,as long as your not doing anything wrong then i would not worry about it.But if its hurting your health then disconnect it.
Say that if she doesn't snap out of it she'll loose it all, including her laptop. Take it from her until she learns
hide her lab top under her bed and not tell her till she gets use to not having it by her side and then tell her i like u know that u r back on track then give it to her
i was like that but when i got off for a day i didnt want to go on the comuter
LOL . intervention ?
wow,i almost got a friend like that,i know how it feels.
That is bad. Many people spend a lot of time on the internet, but when it causes what you are describing, that is not good at all. Maybe her mother should disconnect the internet. Or someone should do something to help her, more then likely her mom will have to talk to her and advise that this is not healthy at all.
haha for a minute there..i thought u were talkin about me.....look u can't do nothin...something or someone will upset her in time due...and she will lose interest..
disconnect the internet QUICK. i had the same problem and she could get abducted by anyone. PLEASE do this. please.
sounds like you need to ween her off.
start by switching her from the laptop to a pda..
then go to a wrist watch.
then quit cold turkey.
i think this is the best way
Ironic that you would ask about this online, maybe YOU have the problem.
But seriously, a friend of mine in college was the same way, he was skipping class, not going out with friends, not spending time with his family, he spent all day and night just playing games online. Eventually we snapped him out of it by literally forcing him to hang out with us away from the computer. If she is addicted to a particular game or website, challenge her to stay away from it for a week (maybe get her mom to offer her some kind of incentive, like money). Just breaking away for a short amount of time can probably do the trick, that and recognizing she is about to fail out of college.
Woah ! that is serious, turn the laptop off and tell her she's only allowed limited hours per day, and if she spend all day doing nuthing else tell her that time will decrease. IN THE END SHE'LL LEARN, try not to b harsh, if she doesnt listen. CALL A PROFESSIONAL bcuz she's ruinin her life
Write her a letter saying how much you love her and how much you do not want her to fail class. What type of internet chat is she addicted too? Tell her to get healthy and eat. What does she want to be when she grows up? Then say if you want to be (....) then you have to stop going on the internet and chatting.
why don't you try doing something she likes to do?try to go on trips with her take a hike or go to a lake or beach! also do something fun and interesting so it will keep her mind off of chating also ask her mom to talk to her and to disconect the internet she might under stand!
you should turn off the internet...
then you should try and talk to her in very very calm manner and tell her about what all she is doing to herself...
I say when she goes to ask think of something fun to do so you can do that instead .If that does not work then mabey you should find a diffrent friend
You can't help someone that doesn't want it! She is gonna have to hit her rock bottom before she realizes what she is doing to her self and friends. At this point the only thing you can really do is be the best friend you can, look out for her make sure she is ok and then when she is ready for the help you can help at that point. I have tried to help many friends and until they realize that they have a problem there really isn't much you can do except be there when they fall.
find out what websites she is going on and talk to her on them. maybe make a fake msn and protend to be someone else then talk to hr and say "heyaa i liked ur msn name so frrttt id add u"
and then get talkin then say
"what do u do in ur spare time?"
then when she says somet type LOL and then put
"oh i go shopping and like goin to uni lol hav sum well gurd times there evern tho studyin is really hard, i aint a sad geek that sits in their bedroom on the laptop 24/7!"
see what she replies then log out and delete the MSN
she'll never know its u and hopefully she will ccooMme 2 her sences... x WORTH A TRY IiLL.L SAY
Your a good friend for being concerned and i am sure she doesn't want to hear your advice. She might be suffering from depression and should see a doctor.
Not much you can do, invite her out of the house maybe shopping or to the park, over to a friends house.
I agree with her mother there are far more worse things to be addicted too. for example, gambling, meth, cocaine, etc.
Well it is very easy to get addicted to anything. You must impress on her that there are people on the outside of the computer that love her dearly, would love to catch up on all their news too. Also remind her that these people she chats too will move on at some point and unless she attends classes she will be left behind.
Tell her that you love her as a friend that you miss her and so do other people, tell her that you want your friend back.
If it all fails have a word with her parents and tell them how worried you are, after all they must be assisting her with Uni fees etc. Lastly, tell her that she does not have to disconnect, just take it in moderation, have a chat once week to her people and it will be so much more exciting then as there will be so much more to say. Sit with her when she does this and say to her after a while that you think it ay be time to close down as you have to study, sleep etc.
Good luck
Here is what YOU can do.
Step 1: Tell her downright that is being an obsessive freak over the Laptop. Yes thats right. If she doesn't listen to you, then shut off her laptop if she's using it. Tough love is needed in this situation. You need to tell her you won't stand around watching your best friend destroy herself!
Step 2: After your little tough love speech, attempt to make plans to do something with her. (ie go double dating; Go window shopping and stuff.) If she won't do anything with you, try seeing why she wont.
If she doesn't want to respond to you, or hates you for any of these things, its okay. She's just in denial that she's messing up her life. If she won't do anything about it then Go to the Final Resort: Do nothing. Doing nothing lets her take the dive herself, and when she bellyflops she'll realize that you were trying to help her the entire time.
I REALLY hope that helps.
I grew up in a time before cable! Imagine that?!
Addiction is bad no matter what it is, get this friend of yours out of the room by inviting her out to do things with you or your friends. WHY would she be doing this! Is she bored, did she experience a break up?
One thing she needs is friends who can include her in on their fun and not judge, and DONT even tell them this is why she's along-she will pick up on phoniness Im sure.
What were her interests prior to this obsession? Is she in high school, graduated? WAS she planning to go to school? This is not an impossible situation, she just needs a kind hand to guide her out of the cycle---you have to be tough, INSIST that she comes with tyou and does things with you! You are her friend afterall. BE tough, but be kind...
Ohh... =o Maybe there's an undderlying reason with her addiction to the internet.. Like she's using it as her defense mechanism for the real things that truly bother her..and I mean, more serious personal issues than you and her mother could have possibly known.. Are you sure too that when she uses the computer and the internet it's largely for chat? Maybe she has been busy with a different agenda on the net?.. Try to learn more about other aspects in your best friend's life that might have just instigated to her this dependence to the internet...
someone needs to pull that girl's plug.
but who am i to talk? someone should be pulling the plug on my computer, too.
i'd like to talk to your friend about how i might be able to lose some weight , while i'm here, tho...
ooh. . i did read, in one of these Q/A's , that they have online therapists...
or would that be counter-productive? ; )
need to get her out of the house more
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