Bullies..Why do you do it? Is research correct?
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Here is a bit you've never heard .
Bullies are somehow telling the truth. Their talent is making it appear bad. ;)
For years, I let myself be bullied. I was called a "dumbass" many times.
It was dumb to let myself be bullied. that's true. but see how it was spun?
Even though no one is lower or higher, a bully pretends to be higher. Pretending requires putting someone down. Pun intended.
I don't know what you're being told, but whatever you're led to think, let me remind you.
Anyone that doesn't see you to be perfect AS IS. is spinning the truth.
And, no one spins that truth better than yourself.
I think that bullies are lacking self esteem so they take it out on others they dont like themselves and in turn they want others to feel just like they do so they treat people horribly in order to make themselves feel better
they did it to me because I had an eating disorder
personal experience; i was bullied, then i bullied. now i realize, it's wrong to bully. way wrong.
I think there are issues of very low self esteem. People that feel no sense of control within them bully others to feel that they are in control. Along with a feeling of low self worth comes anger, jealously and they do need to feel a sense of power to feel better about themselves but its a temporary solution to a long term problem. I do believe the research is correct in that bullying does stem from issues of low self esteem and its an underlying issue that stems from a much bigger problem.
I was bullied up until about 8th or 9th grade.
I don't know what's wrong with them, except that this girl here has a major problem with holding grudges, and I'll be damned if I see an old bully and don't give them a piece of my mind.
I'm sure the power feels good to them, and maybe they're just those rich kids who have everything delivered to them on a silver platter and they feel that everyone else is beneath them and they treat them as such.
i think bullies self esteem is low but rather than make them feel weak and insignificant it makes them angrey and resentful towards others i.e. they bully , it all depends on their upbringing and how they themselves have been treated, they believe that this is a power that is their own to abuse others with and they think they have that right .. Most bullies dont even think ov the way their victims feel as they are eaten up with this power and how good it makes thm feel so they are uncaring horrors.Being a bully is about being in control, this is something they may not have at home so they relish the feeling of having it with their victims, it makes them feel strong.You will find that your average bully is being bullied themselves ..! it may be parents or older siblings xx
Usually through boredom and angry. When something does not go their way they tend to take it out on someone innocent (easy target). If they are enjoying themselves, they might turn on you when they startto become bored. I guess they just don't think of how other people will feel afterwards.
I think that research that points out how sick bullies are underestimates just how fun it is to control and humiliate weaker people. It's the sicker ones who can't control themselves enough to avoid getting in trouble with their bullying and becoming a subject for such studies. Less sick bullies have fun with it and move on to some other oneupsmanship, having fun with that, too.
I think it's much more important to look at what it takes to move beyond all that sort of nonsense.
because they are selfish, read the book the little prisoner and you will find it run in families violence and bullying they are not taught right are brought up selfish and dont, know much difference many. I am not excausing it cos its bad on victims and has to be stopped and sometimes i think like school kids with go with the crowds they are cowards.
they are cowards because they cant pick on everyone. i think they look for people that aren't stong mentaly or physically.
Am no bully but i think that you are right, it is to try and make them self popular and am shamed to say i think that it dose.
to all people that are been bullied, be strong my friends be brave and tell, tell, tell. put a stop to it.
Its all about the up bringin, all you people are correct in many ways but really it mostly comes down to the parents.
if the parents arent to blame which some times they are not it comes down to mixing with the wrong folk.
& finnaly it could be down to a tromatic experience which hashappend in their lifes.
But all in all you have all types of bullies.
bullies are weak who bully to make them selves feel strong.
I believe that people bully others because they feel bad within themselves and their only way of expressing this is to aim their emotions towards others.
The majority of bullies are not as bad whilst they are alone, they usually have their mates around. I believe they need to feel cool and accepted within a group.
Another explanation could be that they were raised within a violent environment and violence is all they know.
I dont think anyone will fully understand the mind of a bully though. But I think everyone will agree that we dont need them.
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