How to become more assertive and confident?
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1st- Envision yourelf the way you want to be and then decide that that is who you are.
2nd- Once you've decided that you are assertive and confident, honor your word to yourself. Just take it one situation at a time. You know how to do it, now you just will. You are confidence!
3rd- Remember- what is the worst that could happen by being assertive? You may get what you want!? That's a great outcome if you ask me.
We all deserve to be heard. Your voice, opinion is as valuable as the next. Make it heard. You could be short0changing the world of what you have to offer!!
Make sure you always have a straight posture and you always need to look people in the eye when you talk to them. Make sure they hear what you are telling them, don't be a sloucher who mumbles random words into empty space.
Go to Los Angeles Mission and volunteer or just walk skid row.
I use to be that way when I was younger, and then the older I got the more I stuck up for myself and what I beleived in. You must beleive in yourself first, and then others will beleive in you! Dont care what they think. You are just as good as anyone else is, and just be yourself, and if they dont like you, its their problem, not yours! Once you establish the self confidence within yourself, others will see it, and will respect you for who you are, really!
What makes people speak up is passion. People who are quiet may not care about the stuff people are talking about. Maybe you haven't found people who like to talk about stuff you like to talk about. If you like soft rock music, but you're hanging about Goths, you probably will feel like shy person.
Another problem is the way you treat yourself inside. Are you listening to what you're saying in your own head? If you learn to listen to yourself, to get in touch with your own feelings and to know who you are, you'll naturally be more powerful and outgoing. You'll know what you like to talk about and know what you have to say. If you shut yourself down, refuse to hear, refuse to resolve issues in your head and heart, and ignore yourself, you won't have much of a chance of being more outgoing with other people. The editor in your head can be a mean bastard. He demands perfection and does not tolerate mistakes.
Start a journal. The journey starts with getting to know yourself, not being the big charmer on campus who always has the right thing to say. NO, the guy who knows him or herself is the one who can really talk passionately and meaningfully about the things he cares about.
You'll be more outgoing if you're fearless, calm, and self-assured in your own mind. If your mind is a place safe for divergent thinking, for crazy talk, for weird mumblings that make no sense but still have a voice and get nothing but positive affirmations from you, that's when you'll be comfortable talking to others. If you're judgmental with yourself, your passion and creativity will be walled in.
When the inside of your head becomes a wonderful, supportive and safe place for your own internal voice, watch and observe what happens with your external voice.
Turn the hard-assed editor down a notch. Find your passion.
just let go of your fears.
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