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Tell your mom to leave you alone about it! You need to explain to her that it's YOUR problem, and she has no right to be ashamed of such a thing, and she certainly has no right to make you feel bad about it. Unless you take some kind of stance with her, then she's going to keep making you feel depressed about it. Do NOT let her do that!
And if it makes you feel a little more relieved to be able to tell your friends or whomever about your panic disorder and whatnot, then confide away. I think your mom is a little too worried about her OWN public image and not enough about your personal happiness and well-being, which is total BS.
Have you tried sitting down with your mom and explaining to her that what you feel/experience is real and does affect your daily life? Maybe if she realises that you are serious (and possibly not using it as an excuse to get out doing stuff) she may understand and accept it... It's common to go through these sorts of things and generally grow out of them. I was quite an anxious/nervous teenager and found certain situations difficult. My advice would to definitely talk it through with your mom, if you felt more comfortable with it, talk to a school counsellor maybe. They can help by discussing it with your mom too. You need support and guidance, not feel guilty about it or try hide it because it only manifests itself into something worse... Please remember there is nothing wrong with you and there is nothing to be ashamed of either!
i personally think to ignor when your mom shushes you because it's your disorder so you get to chose if you want to say it or not tell your mom it's called free speach.
and tell her if you want of cource that it really isn't a big deal because really i don't think it is.
You need to explain to your mother that she needs to leave you alone when you need to get something out you need to get something out. She should love you no matter what. Tell her it makes it worse when she shushes you and how it depresses you even more thinking she is ashamed of something you cannot help. Ask her just to love you for you and really it is no way to live always worried what others are thinking.
Firstly, it takes a lot of courage to acknowledge you have some problems and are trying to deal with them. I think your Mum wants you to keep quiet about it in order to protect you, not because she's ashamed of you even though I understand why you would feel that way. Your mum is probably trying to protect you from the judgement of others, even though most people won't think negatively of you. Maybe she worries that oneday you will regret people knowing these personal details about you. You are more likely to regret what you tell people, than what you don't. Having said that, you have nothing to be ashamed of and if you feel that publicly acknowledging your issues is a step towards recovery then keep it open.
TALK TO YOUR MUM! Sit her down like a mature young adult and say to her "When you shush me and stop me from talking to people about my condition, I feel like you are ashamed and embarrassed by me and that makes me feel more depressed." Ask her why she thinks it's wrong to talk about it. Tell her how you feel she could support you better. Don't get angry or heated, just reasonably explain your needs and feelings. Good luck, hon, by reaching out you're already on the right track!!
I too have depression and anxiety issues - apparantly the two very often go hand in hand. I strongly urge you to go and seek professional help - do you have a school counsellor who you can talk to, or your family doctor? Both will see you in confidence, and both should be able to help. It is important that you do this as soon as possible - it is nothing to be ashamed about, but unfortunately to your mother's generation there is a social stigma attached to any mental health issues, so try not to blame her.
She might also be suggesting that you don't have to make excuses for your behaviour. It can be seen as putting yourself down. People arn't that interested or probably don't understand so i'd advice if you really need to explain yourself, keep it brief and then only to those you can trust.
Tell your mom that not you only have these kind of problems many has more than this . Better consult a trusted person or a doctor with the knowledge of your mother . Always remember prvention is better that cure . All the best.
You don't say how old you are but i would guess around 14-15, give or take a few years. With depression comes irrational and extreme thinking that leads to irrational fears (and vice versa). For instance, overgeneralising is a classic depressive style of thinking that can be upseting for you and others - it often consists of words like everytime, always, everything, ANYTHING, anyone, constantly etc... challenge the irrational thinking. Do you have to talk about it too often with people who do not have the capacity to deal with this? Be careful about who you hang out your dirty laundry too. There are people qualified to handle this i.e gp's, psychologists etc go and see the student counsellor. It may be that you just need to talk about something/s that troubles you. Maybe you're feeling a bit left out and am trying to reach out to someone. Anyway I could go on and on but it's not the right context to do so. I wish you well. PS- Keep a personal journal and write in it often. Access some youth services if you are a youth! Reach out to the right person/people! Visit www.beyondblue.org/ (also an appropriate way to reach out).
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