How can i stop?
Question:
Answers:
And you wondered why your blokes don't hang around very long?
Try another shrink.
Cassie you have to see a doctor immediately, if you really want to stop, find something that when you get these feelings it takes you mind off it.
Life is short! you are a long time dead!
find a new way to relive the inner pain you feel , smash bottles or write crappy poetry ,its acctually an addiction to the endorphins your body releases after you cut, that feeling of calm you get after you cut, you become addicted to that feeling,find a new way any way to deal with your problems
Keep seeing your doctor
find other ways to hurt instead of cutting grip an ice cube in your hand until the bad feeling passes it works but is less harmful
well self harming can be very dangerous and maybe you should continue seeing a therapist. Sometimes the best way to face it is to do it yourself. Go in the mirror and ask yourself " is this really fair to treat myself like this ". I think you can stop harming yourself.
If you cause physical harm to your body in order to deal with overwhelming feelings, then you are not alone. There is nothing shameful about this behaviour. It is likely that this is the only way you have right now for coping with difficult feelings.
However, you may have decided that you would like to change your situation. This outlines alternative techniques that you may find helpful to break the cycle of self-harm.
Try to make yourself safe before reading further. Some of this advice contains material that may temporarily intensify the urge to self-harm in some people.
Self-harm includes the following:
-deliberate physical harm to yourself to the extent of causing tissue damage. (Breaking the skin, brusing, leaving marks that last for more than an hour).
-Causing harm to yourself as a way of dealing with unpleasant or overwhelming emotions, obsessive thoughts or dissociation.
-Thinking about self-harm even when you are relatively calm and not doing it at the moment.
The way you choose to harm yourself could be cutting, hitting, burning, scratching, skin-picking, banging your head, breaking bones, not letting wounds heal and others.
If you self-harm this may inicate that somewhere along the line you did not have the oppotunity to learn alternative ways of coping with overwhelming feelings. People who self-harm are people in pain who have developed self-harm as a coping mechanisim. Whilst being a coping mechanisim however it is also self-destructive. Learning other, less harmful ways to cope can help to break the vicious cycle.
There is evidence that people who self-harm, when faced with strong emotions or overwhelming situations choose to harm themselves because it brings a rapid release from tension and anxiety. These situations cause an increase in psychological arousal, and self-harm reduces that level of arousal, so it feels manageable. The person may feel a release of emotion and may feel guilty or angry with themselves afterwards.
People who self-harm say that self-harm can provide:
-Escape from emptiness, depresion and feelings of unreality.
-A release of tension.
-Expression of emotional pain
-An escape from numbness
-A feeling of euphoria.
-A way of punishing oneself for being 'bad'
-Relief of anger
-A sense of control over one's body
-A way of expressing or coping with feelings of alienation.
When memories, thoughts, beliefs or events are excessively painful, instead of facing them directly and feeling emotional pain, we sometimes deflect distress into pain that seems understandable and controllable, like that of self-harm. The emotional feelings associated with the event that are being avoided get over-ridden by those of the situation you create to distract yourself. It hurts, but it is a controllable familiar hurt, whereas the pain you are avoiding seems scary and overwhelming.
You might feel that if you ever exposed yourself to the emotional pain you would loose control. It is a clever mechanisim. It takes what seems unbearable and transforms it into something you can control. The problem is that when we deflect pain, we never face up directly to what it is that has caused such problems in our lives. This pain then never lessens in intensity. It keeps coming back and the self-harm continues.
Every time you can meet the emotional pain head on and feel it, and tolerate the distress, it looses a little of it's ability to overwhelm you. Exposure over time will build your tolerence to these events and enable you to lay them to rest. The key is learning to tolerate distress.
Hope this helps, if you want anymore info e-mail me and please get proffesional help asap
Source(s):
What is self-harm -provided by my psychologist
how did you start ?
tell a friend that u trust and tell him/her that you will stop if he/she doesn't tell your parents
confide in friends and keep your friends close--maybe you need a roommate to keep you company...
my name is JJ i can help but ive learned through lifes experience not from books i have very sound advice but i dont have enough room here cause its a long process and like an ediction u never lose the urge but i can help u teach ureself to destress in less self destructive ways i will tell u i am engaged and very much in love so i will respect u as friend u will be in complete control so i will send u my e mail and hope tohear from u altho i understand if i dont hear from u
More Questions & Answers...