How can I get my life going?
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That sounds fairly negative. You're only 20? I wish I was that young again. But that is not an EASY age. TV portrays the twenties as all party, all happy, all the time. And the truth is, life sucks, it truly does.
Try to be thankful. I know this is difficult when you feel depressed. But each day find one thing to be thankful for.
Stay away from drugs and alchohol and those who want to "use" with you. Your problems will get worse if you get into illegal substances and or alchohol.
Focus on the positive. What is positive in your life? What are your favorite things? What can you change for the positive in your life?
Find a good councelor or therapist. Don't be afraid to seek help. If you are suicidal, please tell someone and go to a hospital. Please don't take your life. Whether you know it or not your life is precious and irreplaceable.
Plenty of good people have felt depressed. You are not a bad person.
Go out of your way to help others. Volunteer somewhere.
Do something creative. Journal.
I have struggled with depression since my late teens.
I am not a perfect success in life and I don't have a drivers license. I am so glad for the help I have recieved.
Let go of your pride--try some new things, and keep your hopes and dreams alive.
I bet you can turn things around, life can really suck about 90 percent of the time but the 10 percent is worth it, it really is.
I will pray for you and I hope things improve all the way for you.
You're only 20 years old. Give yourself a break! Everybody is like that at 20. There aren't too many people who really know what they want in life at your age. Most people who have their lives mapped out at that age will change their minds a bazillion times. You don't want to work because the only jobs available to you right now are crappy ones. Why not try taking a class or two this coming semester. It doesn't matter if it's at a University or a Community College. Take a course that you think might interest you. Perhaps going to school is the best thing for now until you figure out which avenues you'd like to explore.
Go to the gym!! Nothing better than a good workout to get you in a good mood. Find one that has a spa and sauna too. I play basketball, then the treadmill hit the steam room then take a shower.Never feel better. If I have had a bad day I force myself to go and never regret it.
Let me tell you how I would motivate you if you were MY parasitic, lethargic, unproductive, worthless offspring- 1) first, you would be given 30, not 31, not 32, but THIRTY days to get a job, upon which you would be responsible for a minimum $300.00 monthly rent payment. this would be cheap at THREE TIMES the price. Next, you would have 6 months to find and enroll in a trade school of your choosing Paid for by YOU, not me!), and ONE YEAR TOTAL to graduate from it. This one year time frame starts at the initiation of the initial 30 day period. At the end of ANY ONE OF THESE TIME DEADLINES, SHOULD YOU NOT HAVE COMPLIED WITH THE REQUIREMENTS TO THE LETTER, YOUR MISERABLE, SORRY CARCASS WILL BE PHYSICALLY REMOVED FROM MY HOME ALONG WITH ALL YOUR BELONGINGS, SUCH AS THEY WOULD BE!! Where you go, and what you would do at that point would be strictly up to YOU! Now , do ya think that would be motivation enough for ya? Oh, and if you would, could you provide me with your FATHERS e-mail address? I'd love for him to read this also! PS: To those of you who are tempted to tell me I'm a cruel heartless b-stard, don't waste your keystrokes-I have three sons I raised pretty much like what you've just read, and each one of them is grateful beyond words to me for the work ethic, drive and determination I've instilled in them. It's serving them quite well, inasmuch as 2 of them own their own businesses, and the 3rd makes over $150,000 yearly from several entrepreneurial ventures!
Step one. - Get your drivers license. Get up , and off the computer. Get a phone book and search for how you do it. post the directions / number to the dmv on your bathroom mirror and advise your parents you want to get the damned licese tommorrow.
Step 2. Fill out a Fafsa for finicial aid. On monday call your community college and set up an apointment with an academic advisor. Get enrolled for the fall sememster. If you don't know what you want to do, declare your major to be liberal arts. and just do the basic courses.
step 3. Name 4 things you want to do sometime in your life.
what ever they are. research them, find out real costs, and start budgeting now to get the money for them in 3 years.
Yeah, your only 20! you still got time to figure stuff out... If your like this in 5 years and still haven't done anything, then worry...see a shrink, if all else fails rent a gun and buy a bullet! (or the other way around if you want late fees from hell on the bullet not being returned)
Hey rick...sounds like your a bastard too xD bad childhood or what? You may have raised 3 kids that way, but a parent threating to put there kid out on the street and not caring what they do because they didn't do it in your time frame is kind of harsh. The rest is understandable (exepct maybe the 1 year thing, did you mean like college, if so how do you finish in a year?)
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