Cutting yourse;f?
Question:
it wouldnt stop bleeding.
but she go it to..... she cuts herself alot but never like this.
will she be ok?
btw her parents dont no and they'll kill her
Answers:
hopefully she hasn't bled to death since you typed your question. your friend sounds like she needs help. she obviously has self destructive tendencies.
btw it would be best if her parents knew, unless you'd rather lose a friend
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Her parents need to know. Get her to a hospital quick. Cutting is like practice for suicide. Be very carefull.
Cutting is not necessarily a sign of suicidal intentions, however you must tell someone who can help her get through this issue. Self-mortification, such as cutting, is not normal and it should not go ignored or hidden away. As her friend you should help her in any way you can.
If ur in school tell the counseler or a friend that could help, if she keeps thsi up it could prove fatal, re assure her taht she has people who would be devistated if she did die and that she has too much to live for the gamble with her life
well personally, i think if your a good friend to this person you would try to convince her to stop doing this, and if she refuses, you should tell her parents. i know, the whole snitching is a horrible thing to do to one of your best friends, but think about it. how would you feel if one night she cut herself while she was home alone, and hit a serious artery, and then while being home alone she dies because she loses too much blood. you would more than likely feel like a horrible friend and person to know that you knew about this the whole time and continued to let her do it, without even trying to help her. but, back to your question, do i think its going to be really bad? the only thing thats really bad that would happen is that it could get seriously infected. tell her to make sure she keeps it clean and covered. and if she notices any pain or inflammation(swelling/redness) around the cut, she should go to a doctor and get it checked out, because it could result in something very bad.
Get your bff some help. I am an ex-cutter myself and I know the pain and isolation of it. She will not get help for herself, you need to do it for her. She may feel betrayed by you for a while but know that you are doing the right thing.
Physically, she could suffer from anything from infection, to nerve damage, to permanent scaring and disfigurement. I agree with what David said, that it can be a precursor to suicide. Many who do it are wanting to "test the waters" so to speak. More than that though, it is a cry for help. She may not say it and may fo EVERYTHING possible to hide it, but she really is trying to ask for it. If she wanted absolutely no help at all, she would just go quietly somewhere and do the dirty deed.
Be there for her, and help her through this. I wouldn't necessarily just go suddenly bring the world down on her all at once, but being her friend, try to make her see reason in seeking help or opening up to people.
I don't agree with the people who suggest telling her parents, since a large percentage of self-mutilators do it because of prior sexual abuse. There is no way to be sure one of her parents might not be the abuser. I think talking to a school counselor would be an excellent thing to do. If you can, get your friend to go with you. Hopefully, the counselor will be able to gently find out if it is safe to tell her parents, and if not, can discuss legal proceedings with her before getting her the help she needs so badly.
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Her parents won't kill her but will probably want her to get help if they are any kind of parent. I use to cut myself when I was younger, it has to do with covering up the pain one feels inside. She needs to see a therapist, especially if she is cutting herself that deep, and if it won't stop bleeding she might need stitches and you should get your friend to the nearest ER. She will be able to get help there. Even if she might be really mad at you, you would only be a caring best friend by doing what is right for your friend.
well of course it's going to f'ing hurt! It's not going to feel good at all! once you start you don't stop. What's her life at home/school like? Look at that. Maybe she has been caused so much pain in her life that she cuts herself... it could be the only pain she can control and she likes it. My parents flipped too, it's just every reaction from all parents who's kids cut. They don't want to believe that there child has real problems because it makes them feel like they failed as a parent. If you want to help her. Don't get to envoled because it will truely piss her off and your friendship will die. Don't be a busy-body either. Just help her through it as friendly as possible talk to her and make her feel like she has meaning to this world and always speak possive.
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