Why do i get so upset?


Question:
Okay. I like this band a lot. Like im over obssesed with the band! But i have issues showing how much i like them so it stays bottled up inside. Then i get really depressed because i like them so much and i figure that i'll never meet them. So it makes me all depressed.

P.S. (I have problems showing emotions)

Answers:
I think you might be spending to much time admiring something that is unobtainable. It is normal to have a crush on a band, celebrity, actor. You do need to realize that the odds of you having a relationship with that person is less than winning the lottery. If you are depressed, talk to your friends, parents, a mentor, a counselor, a church member, someone. Share your feelings with someone who knows your personality. Be creative and start a blog, write poetry and find a way to express yourself. It's not healthy to be isolated. You're hormones are having a field day, this is likely normal, and part of the growing process.

Develops interests beside this band that you admire so much. If you can't that, find friends who share your same likes. Admiration for someones talent and skills is one thing. Having an unhealthy and unrealistic obsession is not. Good luck.
Don't get so in love with this band
Take Lexapro - Big time! tell your mom to take you to the Dr. and go to bed.. to late for you to be up!
well your a girl theese things happen just hang in and try to start a journal about why you like them or put up posters have pics on your computor anything best of luck!
this is obsession... come out of it...
You are projecting your emotions onto a band precisely because they are safe (i.e. you will never meet them.) Why not try discussing any problems you have with a caring friend, relative or teacher? You may feel better after doing so. Either way, please take care - you're not alone and you will meet real people in life who turn out to be as wonderful as you believe your favourite band are.
scream your heart out to the mirror. just imagine your showing your excitement to the band in the mirror. that will get your emotions out.
OMG THE BAND IS PANIC! AT THE DISCO ISN'T IT?

OR IS IT ARCTIC MONKEYS?
that its normal, it happens to me too. u wish something so much, and when u realise that u can have that thinng, u get upset. i wished a lot of thinks wich even now are dreams. i lost my hope and the depressions and the other thinks are gone, and now ive lost my interes. to anything. if i can have something in the next 2 days, than ive give up, and go on.its not the end of the world. i have great things that even't ask and wish them, and im happy :D
damn u got issues
You've idealized the band and put them up on a pedastel as being "Better than human." Try to distance yourself from the band, don't listen to their albums for a while, take down any posters you have. I know it sounds crazy, but by attaching yourself to the band you'll detach yourself from reality and that's unhealthy.

Unless the band is "The Who" in which case Pete Towsend IS better than human, and you can go ahead and feel free to idolize them. ;)
I'm not a psychiatrist so excuse me if I am way off the mark here, OK?
Did something traumatic happen to you in your past, or is your home life still incredibly stressful?
Often time’s people fixate on the unattainable (in your case that's the band) because it's "safe" and by that I mean you can fantasize and build a relationship in your mind which can grow and remain intact. They can't hurt you in other words.
It could also be that you are obsessing because you need to release a great deal of pent up emotions which, as you have mentioned, you have a difficult time expressing in real life. The band becomes your outlet.
You sound so alone, do you have anyone to talk to?
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