How can I stop getting angry so easy?
Question:
any tips to help me not get angry?
thanks.
Answers:
I have a temper too. It helps to identify what I'm angry about. Often, when I really think about it for a few minutes, what I'm angry about has nothing to do with the person I just went off on. And then it's time for an apology.
Basically, I find that you can't stop getting angry, but you can change how you act on your anger. Try to stop and think about what you are going to say and how it will affect the people you are near. I wish I could say it always works, but it does help.
I'm slowly getting better about how I react to anger, but can take none of the credit myself. I must rely on a higher power.
Count slowly to ten before saying anything.
Usually, anger results from miscommunication and unexpressed feelings. Self-awareness is the best way to combat your resentment, because you can identify what bothers you and properly address it. The next time you get angry at your parents, seek clarification. Repeat the offending remark back to them and tell them what you thought it meant. For instance, if they said, "You need to lose weight", you can say, "When you said X, I heard you saying that I was fat. This hurt my feelings. Is that what you meant to get across?" If they are good parents, they'll respect your openness and reassure you.
If you still struggle with the impulse to overreact, remind yourself that you will probably feel bad later on if you say something snippy. Leave the area, find a calming activity to do, and then rejoin your family when your anger has subsided. Sometimes, you may need time alone. Remember that adolescence is an emotional time and that these feelings are normal, but your desire to improve yourself is good.
Instead of trying to run your own life at 13, how about letting your parents be the captain of the ship? As long as you tell yourself that you trust and believe their judgement, then you would have lost all reasons to oppose what they tell you. Then there is no reason for you to get angry at them again.
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