What are the chances I will end up crazy if both my parents were? (I'm serious)?

Question:

My mother had a traumatic childhood and adult life, I don't know if her severe depression and suicidal tendencies were a result of that or if there was a real mental illness there, she has since died from cancer but her whole life she was just miserable. My father was violent, possessive and suffered from depression. It's just my luck these two ended up being my parents (I wasn't raised by them completely). My fear now is as an adult and parent I am worried that I may end up like them, I find myself with a LOT of instability in my life, relationships, jobs, moving all over the place, I'm upset very easily and in general can't stick to anything if I ever get around to making a decision about it. I'm starting to get very scared, I don't want to be crazy. I am however very open to mental health, I read lots of books have begged my way into therapy offices etc. I slip back into this unsettled feeling. Is it realistic to escape my heredity? thanks

Answers:
You CAN inheirit it,yes. But,just because you CAN,doesn't mean you WILL. Go see a thearapist,it will help regardless. In this day and age,I don't think anyone is a poster child for mental health,lol. Seriously,try living YOUR life,and don't worry about what they did or did not do. You do YOUR best,that's all YOU can do. Don't live in the past,good luck to you.

chances are pretty good. But you know this, so work hard on not allowing it and you will be fine.

some people go nuts because they let go and they stop using their brain. dont let it happen to you.

each person is diffrent its sad that your parents are like that but i dont think you will end up like it unless you have a bad childhood

forget it. Just live your life. You won't go crazy. Relax.

Yes, definitely. Do you have friends? By the way, the more you obsess about this, the more it will become reality. I have a question for you. When you begged your way into therapy did you commit to the therapy or did you get it for free? Did they give you advice? Did you take it? Is there anything else that is interesting about you?

If Your moms craziness came from trauma in her life..that is not genetic..t..And your father sounds like he maybe had anger management issues probably something he grew up around in his own childhood..since you weren't totally raised by them you have a good chance not to carry on the same pattern..now if they had been diagnosed with a mental disorder or chemical imbalance you could have inherited that and maybe the depression..go get checked out..they have tests for mental illness..but mainly remeber how you felt towards your parents growing up..do you want your children to feel the same towards you..You are your own best medicine...

There's a good chance you are predisposed to depression, however, if you'll pardon the cliche, knowing is half the battle. You have their examples to learn from. However, you don't want to become a self-fulfilling prophecy either where you develop issues because you've become so obsessed with the possibility of developing them.
Your best bet is to stay educated and be AWARE of what depression is and if you're displaying tendencies, but don't live your life overanalyzing everything expecting every detail to be evidnce of slipping into insanity. Speak to a doctor or a counselor and stay open-minded to the idea of anti-depressants. They're a medication like any other, not an indication of weakness.

With enough DETERMINATION, foresight and your explained hindsight, ANYTHING is possible.
Make a continuous effort to see the glass as 1/2 FULL.
You mention that you recognise "the symptoms" so make intentional efforts to avert them before they overrun your life.
Consider joining LAUGH / HAPPINESS clinics.
Even in a sardonic attitude, the simple action of laughter helps divert many symptoms of depression and anxiety.

I think that its stuck in your head that your parents are crazy, so therefore you probably are going to be too.But, don't you want to want to rise above them and prove to people that something good can come from something bad?Hopefully, you will learn from your parents mistakes, and become a really good person.[which im sure you already are =D]

Many mental illnesses are genetic in nature, however, that does not necessarily mean it will affect you. I come from a large family, nine aunts and uncles and of course all my cousins. Most of them have expressed their mental illnesses and yet not one relative has committed suicide or had to be committed. However, it is something that you must face up to and get some training on how to recognize the signs. We didn't know the signs and I almost lost at son at age 14. Some people seem to get really loaded up problems and dysfunctions. They can't handle them on their own. For some of them their is no cure even with therapy and medication. I know that for a fact because I haven't been able to cure my depression totally, but it has improved with proper meds. Therapy sucks. The shrinks were crazier that I was. Just get some help to help you identify serious signs and act on them as suggested by your doctor. Good luck and welcome to the chose few.

You can inherent certain chemical imbalances as well as behavior tendencies. However you are a step ahead of the game. You know what to look for. You have taken the firs steps in going to see a therapist.And reading self help books, Maybe some medication will help as well.

You could inherit some depression or other mental 'thing' but you can also work on not ending up like that.There is medical help.Just tell yourself your not going to end up like that.

What are the chances I will end up crazy if both my parents were? (I'm serious)?

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