Have I changed who I am trying to be somthing I'm not?

Question:

Okay. This is why. I used to be one of those people that were always happy. Always following trends. But I was always the "Not as pretty" "Not as Funny" "Not as cool" "Not as slim" person. But I wanted to be known for somthing. And one day I met this emo girl. And I thought she was so cool. But then I wanted to dress/act as cool as her. (not the bad cutting stuff that she did) but. I gradually changed my attitude. I noticed I'm never as happy as nice anymore. I'm actually pretty mean and depressed. But now that comes by reflex. I just can't seem to be happy. I don't like how I used to be. But I don't think I'm best off the way I am. But I act different now and it comes naturally. Is it just me growing up? Or have I changed myself?

Answers:
I'll have to assume that you are a teenager by the content of what you write and the comment "Is it just me growing up?"

As a teenager, (please don't groan!) there are a TON of hormones flooding your system, and they have to do with just about every single part of your body that's changing. You're getting taller, changing the basic shape of your body, gaining weight to find the right balance, changing your psyche even.

To me, what this sounds like is very normal and healthy. You have tried on different styles on the outside. You found someone who looked and acted the way you wanted to look and act (minus the bad cutting) and used her as a mentor for awhile. That is what you are SUPPOSED to do in the teen years. Then, you started to self-analyze, another healthy thing, asking yourself "Am I happy?" and are now weighing whether or not you like the change.

One thing I can tell you for certain: (and you probably already know this, but just for the sake of clarity, bear with me) clothes do NOT make you one way or another. Behavior is usually coming out of thought or emotion, not dress. (Unless of course you happen to be sporting a straight jacket, in which case, your movements are greatly restricted.)

Bottom line: it is not JUST you growing up, it is you doing the HARD WORK of growing up.

Have you changed yourself? We all change ourselves, and not just in the teen years, throughout life. We change ourselves with every decision we make, whether it's about action or attitude toward something. Nothing is carved in stone. NOTHING. There are always options, and the only constant you can absolutely count on is change.

Hang in there, and while you are looking at yourself, try hard to be kind, okay? The best thing you'll ever do is be your own best friend. Add friends on top of that who care about you.

Good luck!

No, you are yourself. You are a depressive. The rest wasn't really you.

u may have depression.

It is difficult when we don't feel the best about ourself. Sometimes when we hang around other people for ahwile, we pick up their bad habits and become like them. Then it is hard to change back to our old self. I am a christian and it will only be through the power of God that you will be able to change to the point of liking yourself and becoming the person that you were meant to be. I know this should be in the R/S sectiion, but this is true. I use to be just like you and I am now happy and content with who I am, good and bad.

Have I changed who I am trying to be somthing I'm not?

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