Bipolar disorder (and dating) -- do they really care for you or is it the disorder talking/manifesting?
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bipolar disorder means they have severe and often frequent mood swings. sounds to me like he may be a bit obsessive. just because hes bipolar doesnt mean he isnt sincere or isnt in to you, but it might mean that he is having a manic episode and that he is intensifying everything that is going on. bipolars arent sick, theyre just irregular (mood wise) if hes on meds he should be stable for the most part. anyway, without knowing him personally its hard to tell you anything for sure. because not everybody with bipolar is the same, why dont you just sit down with him and ask him questions about his bipolar and how it affects him. this way you might get a better idea about why he acts the way he acts. good luck to ya.
Bipolar means his mood swings from extremely depressed to extremely alert and hyper-creative, often with feelings of intense happiness. It shouldn't have anything to do with with his actual feelings, but the intensity may have been partly attributable to his mania.
I have bipolar disorder it's manic depression high and low emotions and nonstop talking racing mind I'm dating someone with it and we give each other space that helps it runs in families stick with them and love them for who they are inside their heart
Do you need this? Really need this? Bipolar is a tough disease, manic and depressive. When manic, oh boy, they can spend money, including yours, and fly like a bat or at least they think they can. When they're down, you'll get dragged down. Find another. You must be young. Lots of time to find a better one.
Okay, bipolar does *NOT* mean sociopathic. Normally. But if he start with the I love you's on the second or third date, break it off as gently as you can and run do not walk away. More than I like to recall, the guys who were, as you say, very into me very quickly, turned out to be abuser/stalker types.
Rule one. NEVER talk about an abusive ex in ANY context.
It lets the guy think that abusing you is allowed. My normal thing under those circumstances is to say, "This is moving WAY too fast for my comfort. I think we need to take some time away from each other. See other people. But we can still be friends. You're like a brother to me. You have a great personality, it's just a little intense for me." This is what he will hear. "I don't want to get involved with you. I'm f***ing someone else. I'll answer your calls, but not your questions. I think you're ugly and we won't be having sex in this lifetime, because I'm not into incest, brother."
If you're lucky, he'll back off. If not, remember, you can always get an order of protection.
Best wishes. It's not because he's bipolar. It's because he's a stalker.
I was in a relationship for 2 1/2 years with a man who was bipolar, and he fucked me up tremendously! He can really love you, but his disorder will make him screw you over at every turn. They can't think and function like normal. It's a chemical imbalance that impairs their brain function. They might want to love you and treat you right, but they will naturally think of themselves first and constantly make bad decisions. They are impulsive, and are EXTREMELY prone to addictions! My fiance was obsessed with asian women. I know a lot of men think they are pretty and are attracted to them, but he was truly obsessed and only wanted to have an asian women for her race, as if having one was like a **** doll/trophy. It consumed him. Most bipolar people are addicted to either sex or drugs. Mine chose sex. More that likely, you will have to deal with him treating you poorly, thinking only of himself, and either being addicted to sex and messing around on you, or being addicted to drugs or alcohol and needing to be high/drunk all the time. I dated a bipolar man, my new boyfriends brother is bipolar and so is his mom. They all behave terribly, they all have an addiction, they all have fucked over their family and friends, they cannot support themselves, and they all lie constantly. No one should have to deal with that. I went through the same thing you went through and more, so from experience, I am telling you that the best thing to do is leave him. His disorder is more in control than he is. His disorder IS him because his disorder is his mindset.
I agree with grundle, that having bipolar disorder doesn't necessarily mean that he is insincere. The fact that he's on meds makes it likely that he's "stabilized."
However, I did have bad experiences with a bipolar boyfriend a few years ago. He refused to get on medication, saying that he was "afraid it would change who he was." He could be the funniest, sweetest, and most endearing man ever. But every time he had an episode, he would turn into a freaking demon and blame me for all his problems, have affairs, go on drug and alcohol binges, and basically forget about me and our child. After a few weeks, his episode would be over, and then he'd always come crawling back with his figurative tail between his legs, telling me how sorry he was, and that he really did love me and our child, and that everything would be great from now on, and there wouldn't be any more horrible mood swings. And yet it would always happen again. I did everything I could for him, but in the end there wasn't anything more I could do without taking away from our daughter and the new baby. So after a few years, I'd had enough of it, and now the kids don't remember him.
There are obviously some unscrupulous people who think they can do whatever hurtful things they want, and blame it on biploar disorder. If your man is on medication, then it's highly likely that he's taken responsibility and won't do what my now ex did. Your guy seems much more stable. I just wanted to throw in my story though.
Chances are that your guy is sincere, but I would add one bit of cautionary advice...if the medications don't completely take away his mood swings, and he repeatedly walks all over you, then cut your losses and leave. If someone gets in a cycle like that, then he probably won't stop. But if the medication prevents the episodes altogether, and he never quits taking it, then you two might be ok.
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