I have negative thoughts - scary ones - should I risk getting married. I fear hurting anyone. Can I change?
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sure you can change.
see a therapist...
talk with a non-judgmental friend.
we all have weird thoughts.
acting on them is when it becomes a problem.
don't bottle up your emotions. they can get toxic if not expressed.
You should probably talk with a doctor and they will answer your question.
don't get married , unless you have no doubts
even then do a ten year trial partnership before considering it again
its a bad deal for the man, almost always
you are the only one in control of your mind, and of course you can change your thought processes. But frankly, I would not commit to a long term marriage type relationship until I was sure I had made the change. One of the ways you can make that change is to unload all the emotional baggage you carry around with your memories.
http://www.geocities.com/the_inner_searc...
is a site that can help you learn how to do this.
Not enough info to answer that question. Are the negative thoughts associated with getting married? What type of "hurt" or you talking here, physical or psychological? As far as can you change, it depends on what exactly you're talking about.
Everyone's thoughts betray them. So why trust your thoughts? Disregard them, they're not you.
I personally think that if you love someone and he/she loves you back, it will all work out. You should get married! I felt the same before i got married... and most people do, because your life will change completly. stop thinking. get real, this is life. dont loose someone u love or u'll regret it in future!
Dear Matthew
You can wipe negative thoughts out of your mind by reading positive material or watching positive, uplifting entertainment. Stay away from horror movies or any form of entertainment that revolves around scenes of cruelty or sadistic behavior. These forms of entertainment are destructive to your mental health. Also stay away from alcoholic beverages and mind bending drugs because they lessen your inhibitions. It will help if you listen to quiet peaceful music instead of heave metal/hard rock or rap.
You might even consider going to church.
You can train your own mind to stop thinking negative thoughts.
Matthew, the question you should be asking yourself is WHY are you having these thoughts? What is the reason behind the actions?? What you give your attention to grows...if you go to thesecret.tv you can start to bring in good thoughts and change your world...
OK first of all what kind of scary thoughts??? Death, hurting someone, evil, thoughts totally out of your norm? I went through a scary thought phase also, it scared me to death! One day I went to a chiropractor cause my neck had been hurting for a long time off and on. He cracked my neck and all the scary thoughts went away!! It turned out I had a pinched nerve causing my thoughts. I would suggest a chiropractor to anyone having this problem, if that didn't work than a brain scan for tumors.
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