Some people in my life treat me as though i am not competent, why is this?
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Considering your background, it's very possible that it's your confidence. If someone speaks with no confidence or conviction, it's very easy and common for people to discount what they say.
I should know. I've been in the same position. When I was growing up, nobody would listen to me, so I became quiet and hardly spoke my mind (even though I was normally right) because I thought nobody would listen to me.
As I grew up and other circumstances happened, I learned how to speak up and have confidence. and I noticed that more and more people were listening to me when I did.
From what you are saying here, it sounds like you are completely competent and well educated. Of course, when you're writing, it's hard to show a tone, which is why "emoticons" are so nice :-)
As stupid as this may sound, have someone record you in a normal conversation (without you knowing when) during a time that you feel like people treat you that way. I would say to listen to your tone, but I tried that and I couldn't see much difference because I was too objective (and used to it).
Listen to the recording a few times and see if you sound unsure of yourself.
I've seen it many times... if someone sounds like they're unsure when they're saying something or giving advice, most people won't listen to it.
its obvious you ARE very competent with all that you have on your plate. wow.. be proud of yourself and try not to care what others say/think or how they make you feel. some people can only feel better about themselves by making others feel exactly the way you are feeling now.
i can totally relate! I don't know why people treat me like that either? It's very frustrating. I was told recently that it is all on how you deliver your knowledge. I personally am really good at communicating in writing but I have trouble expressing my thoughts verbally. Right now I am unemployed and I had 6 interviews with one company and then didn't get hired. i feel it is because I kept getting tongue tied and stumbled over my words during the interview . I walked away from the interview feeling confident with my performance, but was crushed when they sent me a letter telling me they decided to hire someone else. Maybe the way you present your information is the problem.
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