How can i get my son to see what he is doing to himself?
Question:
he says he needs it to relax and sleep. I am at my wits end. he wont accept treatment from the hosp and says there is nothing wrong with him.
On Friday he was very aggressive until he got the hash. I just dont know what to do.
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not just what he is doing to himself, what he is doing to YOU. How dare he frighten you and be aggressive with you? It will be violence next. Tell him what his behaviour is doing to BOTH of you - it's not just his life he is wrecking.
Tell him he will have to find somewhere else to live if he is going to do drugs, and that you will support him only if he will seek treatment. Mean it - if he gets stoned again, kick him out. This is called tough love, and may bring him back to reality with a jerk. He will call you all the b******s under the sun, but do it anyway. Don't give him your money - if he works, he can pay for his own lunch, and he can pay you rent. If you have to dole out lunch money out of that, so be it. He is living in your house; he must respect your rules, or leave.
Will he talk to you about what is troubling him? If not, he must see the mental health team. Ring his doctor, and explain your fears.
Good luck, and may your God walk with you both
he has to hit the bottom before he can go anywhere and he needs to help his self and he must want to start afresh himself. Kick him out, you have to 2 be cruel to be kind sometimes,when he relises he has nothing, no one and is going no where he will wake upTrust me!!
Since he is only 16 you have the authority to check him into an INPATIENT drug rehab! he may be pissed off at you but would you rather have him hating you and be alive or think you are cool and be dead! use tough love have him admitted for his own good!
you can request he is sectioned to a mental health unit if you feel he is a danger to himself or others.
he obviously has mental health problems and the hospital is the best place for him to be....you cannot make him see what he is doing to himself, he has to realise for himself in order to do anything about it .
jsut be there for him and don`t put him down as this will make him feel even worse.
good luck
xxx
Ask any medication centre for advice, as this matter is ridiculous and needs 2 stop! You can try and persuade him to give em up, by compromising him by giving him a treat every Friday he doesn't by any. If that doesn't work, try and get his friends to stop him by saying that its disgusting, or you wont Get a girlfriend or summit lik that. Wit the suicide, try and make him feel better and find the reason and make sure that reason is dealt with!! Good luk!
sorry to hear of this, i used to be a cannabis smoker and relied on it at stressful times and to be able to sleep. I think you should not give him money for his lunch as he is earning his own money and make him give you money for rent etc, with his money left over try and get him to go out and enjoy life rather than blowing it all away on smoking rubbish. Maybe a new group of friends may help if they are doing it. It will be hard but he needs to realise money is better spent on things that will last for long rather than a buzz for an hour or so, it is hard to give it up but the money saved and the health reasons he will appreciate more.
I do not think he is serious about getting better. I would not give him any money and put your money away. If he says i will attempt suicide then get the belt turn is butt over and tell him you will get him started and beat the crap out of him. If you can not do it get some one that can. Tell him you r tired of being miserable and if he can not stop the hash then hit the road jack.
Until he accepts that he needs help there is really nothing you can do. you have to look after yourself and get support for you with this terrible situation.
The mind helplines are good and may be able to offer strategies for dealing with him. also there are a lot of support agencies that help parents when there kids take drugs.
have a look at the helpline page in your local thomson directory or yellow pages.
I wish you well
It isnt the hash that is his problem. Geez. He's just being a dummy. And if you really believe that it is his problem well turn his butt in.Do you really think thats such a horrible thing? You talk as if hes some kind of hard core drug addict. I think there is more to the story than he smokes a little hash.
Sounds like he is having a hard time dealing with those teenage years. I'm sorry he is putting you through all this, and hopefully as he gets older he will grow out of it. But have you tried secretly video taping him while he is high and paranoid so you can show him what he acts like after he becomes sober?
Wow, what a soul you've been gifted with. You got the sort straw there didnt you.
I just wanted to say,don't give him any money for his lunch at work and please don't be naive enough to think he couldn't get hold of it at work.He probably has mates at work who know someone who knows someone,so that's not gonna stop him being able to get hold of hash through the week.Having tried to commit suicide and a hospital visit,I'm pretty sure your GP will be aware of the situation by now(hospital letter to doctors).I would advise taking him to your GP and seeing what he advises,although at 16 you can't force him to go..good luck and stay strong it's gonna be a hard battle cause he's in denial of any addiction which he obviously has...show him this and tell him to take my word for it.His behaviour on Friday shows that he's addicted...my partner used to be exactly the same,tetchy,aggressive until he got either money from me or managed to get hold of some by other means which usually means ticking it(owing money)another road he doesn't want to go down.
get him scetioned
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