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Unfortunately, it's your mother that needs the help. She's managed to raise a spoiled, ungrateful, manipulative brat. Heaven help her future husband. Sadly, you have to live with the consequences of your mother's failure to set limits with your sister until you are old enough to leave the nest.
The best you can do is to steer clear of sister. Do your best not to model your life after hers. Clearly you have the sense to see right from wrong and to call a spade a spade.
Your mother has created this monster. If your mother continues to behave as she always has, your sister will continue, as well. There really isn't a thing that you can do about it other than bide your time until you can leave.
you have to paint a picture to have her see 'What's in it for me? (her perspective) the story is told of two guys trying to get a calf in the pen. They're pushing it and pulling it. No results. Along comes the handmaid and gets some milk and coaxes the calf in the pen. when we get someone to see where they gonna benefit from it they'll be more cooperative.
your mom should stop giving into her tantrums. She's grown and needs to start facing some responsibility. If she isn't in school she needs to working and if she doesn't want to listen and abide by the rules she needs to pack her ish and get out. maybe if she starts paying some bills she'll have a little more respect for you your mother and the house
first of all she's this way because your mom has probably always caved in when ever she threw a fit and apparently still does. this is just re-enforcing bad behaviour in her. she needs someone who's going to set rules and boudaries and enforce them no matter what. maybe you should suggest this to your mom and think about how you might apply it as well. sometimes girls like this need to be kicked out so they can learn the hard way what its like to have to take care of their own home and have to deal with hard situations without being pampered. yeah she might move in with her alcoholic boyfriend but that might be a valuable lesson to her as well. she'll never change as long as she keeps being allowed to live the way she currently is. but with this type of person...they realy won't learn any other way but the hard way.
your mom needs to wake up and put her out. she obvisouly doesnt have no respect for anyone elses stuff cause she has none of her own. she has not had to work to get it so it holds no value to her.
I'd let her move in with her bf then she can get a taste of reality without mom doing EVERYTHING for her.
at 22 years of age ,your sister should be more flexible then she is =does she work?=If so, does she pay your parents board?=If she doesn't ,she should be helping around the house and she should also have more respect for her parents for letting her stay there=she sounds spoiled =sorry to say that stuff =you need a good relationship with your sister too=sounds like she just thinks of herself =hopefully she will soon realize the way she is behaving isn't a nice way to her family
Well, it is working for her. As long as she is allowed to get by with her behavior, she will continue it. Your mom is not giving any consequences. In fact, she is rewarding her behavior by buying her things and allowing her to live at home. Your sister is spoiled. There isn't much you can do about the situation. However, it is another story for your mom. She can put her foot down. No more purchases until she shapes up. She should get a job and pay rent or at least do her part of the house cleaning and buy her own stuff.
I agree with everyone that has said that it's your Mom's doing, she has created this monster (so to speak).I know it's hard on you, I've been there! Try to focus on yourself and what makes you happy and try to ignore your sisters behavior, sounds like she just wants atttention, well don't give it to her, go about your life and what's best for you. I'm sorry to say but your MOm is going to be the disappointed one in the end. Good luck!
Your sister is spoiled. Your mother is an enabler. You cannot change either one.
The good news is you have learned from both of them. You've learned that you are a more responsible person than either. You've learned that giving people anything and everything they want is not good for that person. You've learned what not to do when you have your own children.
I feel sorry for both of them. Your sister will never feel fulfilled and your mother will never feel the gratitude she is striving to receive from your sister.
I can understand your anger and need to vent. You need to distance yourself from your sister. You aren't going to change her and seeing this immature behavior will only stress you.
I agree with everyone above. it is a mix of stuff going on. which reminds me that you need to carry on the good road that you are on don't worry about her i know she is your sister and you care about her in a way but she is going to hit a hard reality when real life comes about face and you will be fine and she will not last. what needs to be done is that your parents need to cut the strings and let her hit the curb it is hard they want to protect her but they won't be around forever she needs to experience life for how it really is "unfair". not everything is served or given to us, we have to work at it. if i were you don't do things for her, don't tell her what to do, don't give in to her. carry on a normal and healthy relationship with your parents. and she will become jealous of that. if she isn't already. keep being the good role model for her. set the example. but never let her feel like your better then her. don't rub it in her face. kill her with kindness. talk to your parents about setting limits for her she can't go through life living like Paris Hilton. and the better prepared she is the better your family will be. right now she is very selfish and unaware. Good Luck, and i hope she comes around for the family's sake. it may take a long time maybe years, perhaps never but at least yall tried. God Bless.
I have an ex who had 4 sisters. One of them is like this except the dog part. They have a family dog and he's well behaved, but she's a different story. I don't know if it's just her personality or a disorder. She would throw tantrums all the time. Yells, screams, swears at everyone, fights with other sisters and her parents. She doesn't listen to anyone or does what she's told. She's very rebellious and thinks she can do whatever she wants though she's underage and still living under her parents roof. She's also a really big drama queen. Her father wanted to throw her out a few times and they've had some heated arguments. There was even a time where I had to intervene before anyone does anything they would regret later. This started to become an issue with the family but more for the parents. The father would want to discipline more, and the mother would disagree on the discipline or the method of discipline. I think it may be also because their mother always babies all the kids. She does everything for them even though some of them are over 18 years of age. I started seeing this and realized they're all still attached to their mother's ambilical cord. Makes me wonder how they'd handle life outside the womb. I've always been independent. Been working since 16 and living on my own since 17. The only time my ex ever lived on his own was with me, and even then he didn't do too well. They're way to dependent on the mother or others. Things have never changed with the girl. She's still the same. I think that no matter how old she gets, she'll be the same. Very bratty. I've never had any issues with her, but that's because I know better than to really get involved in her issues. I do give her advice when I feel she really needs it, but other wise, I just avoid it. I know it must be really hard and frustrating for you. Same thing for that family. You can see the stress, but they try to cover a lot of it up like they're family was really normal when really, they had a lot of issues in the house. Their parents had too much pride to admit that something might be medically wrong with their daughter. They didn't want people to say, "oh, that family had a daughter who had some disorder." or something. They always thought they had the answer to everything and were the best, but I saw right through everything after the years went by. Glad to say, I'm not involved with them anymore. I'm sorry to say, but I don't know if your sister will change. If she does, it'll probably be in her late 20's or something. Maybe you can try having a serious sit down with each other and just let her know how you feel. Don't argue, but camly talk. It might work. Good luck!
sounds like you mom spoils her rotten and she should move out as she is 22 yrs old. maybe once she has to replace things she ruins she will know how to take care of things.she needs to be on her own. she chose this guy, so i would let her deal with it. she is like a spoiled little kid throwing temper tantums.you sound very mature, and very respectful. she should take a hint from you, but as long as they give in to her she will stay like this. nothing will change till your folks change.
i agree with the rest ur mom has spoil ur sister my sister is like that and she is only 11 years old and she is spoil u need to talk tour mm about yr sister know that she is a big pain on the *** maybe she will understand
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