Is there something wrong with me?
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If you mean are you abnormal, no. This is a normal response to grief. However, you can't go too long without eating anything. Begin by drinking tea or water, and start like you would if you had a bad flu. Soda crackers, then toast, then bland pudding, small amounts at a time. Try some foods that are really special to you that you don't allow yourself very often.
Keep yourself hydrated. Counseling will help if it continues, but I am guessing you don't have the energy at this point, to even make the call.
Pay attention to the basics, food, water, rest and if you can, talk to other members of the family and ask what they are doing.
You can also write a letter to the deceased person, saying what you would say if they were still here. Unfinished business with the dead person makes grieving harder.
Sometimes it is just saying how much you miss them, what you have been doing, what makes you think of them, what is hard without them, etc.
Make an 'appointment with grief', each day. Put aside a period of time to look at pictures, think, write, talk to the person . Cry as much as you want during this time. Just let go.
When you have thoughts and emotions during the rest of the day, remind yourself that you will be addressing those at the appointed time. Then go on with whatever activity you are involved in.
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This way, you are honoring your loved one with special time, and your grief does not need to consume your whole day.
I hope this helps,
grief is hard work,
Karen
YES! you need to go to a counselor soon. this is a fairly common reaction after death in the family. you are experiancing depression, and need attention.
I don't think so. How recently is quite recently though? All the things you have told me depressed, not eating, don't fell like going out all sound like the normal process of grieving for a loved one. I would say if you don't feel any better within a couple weeks to a month I would seek help.
It's hard to say if something is "wrong" with you, because obviously, when traumatic events occur in people's lives, everyone reacts differently, you know? And honestly, who is to say that a person shouldn't grieve in a certain way? While your habit of not eating isn't the healthiest way to deal with loss, it doesn't make you abnormal at all, it's just the way you are dealing with your pain. My advice to you is to just chill out and do whatever you need to do to deal with it; anyone who tells you differently is just giving you misleading information. Of course, I'm not telling you to do drugs or anything, but what I mean is that healing will occur with time; in the grand scheme of things, two days isn't really a long time...give yourself a few weeks to realize the situation and take things a little bit at a time. You'll be fine.
Everyone deals with grief differently. Consider a grief support group.
You are in deep depression due to a loss of a loved one. This is not uncommon under the circumstances but its interfering with your ability to function on a daily basis. Being that the case, I suggest you seek out counseling to help you cope so that you can get on with the business of living.
Depression is defined as a feeling of sadness that has no actually reason to be sad. Just feeling sad, or down when nothing has really happened at all. What you are feeling is sadness, due to the death of your relative. But I do think that you should go talk to a professional psychotherapist to have them evaluate you, to see if it is general sadness, or depression. They are two entirely different things. But grief can lead to depression. Seek help, none of us can do this thing called "life" alone.
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