He put my life in danger... Help me please!!?
Question:
Iv been with him for 2 years and his never done anything like that before.
He put my life and his life at danger.
His my frist true love. I lost my virginity to him.
If he loves me, he wouldnt of done that? Was that the ADD taking over? Was that the real him? Im so scared. Iv never been so scared in my life.
I havent talked to him since then.
I dont think i can ever look at him the same after last night.
I have given him myself mentally and physically.
Should i try working it out with him or leave him he did put my life at risk?
im so confused.
Answers:
I understand that you love your boyfriend and feel tied to him as you have given of yourself and a lot of time.
However there is more to a long term relationship and it is possible to love many people.
For a long term relationship you need to consider your needs as well as your partners. Your bf may love you as much as he is able but if he has a condition which makes him unstable he will not make a good husband or father.
You can love your bf for what he is and the good times you have shared, but you should look to the future and find someone who will love you back the way you need and deserve to be loved.
Remember - you are a princess and deserve to be treated a such.
Leave if he's not taking his meds he doesn't care about himself right now. And there is no way he can care about anybody else...including you. Just give it a break at the least!! Good Luck.
Love is hard, but as long as your breathing there is hope!
add doesnt really do that
Give him the benefit of doubt, especially since he's apparently never had a history of incidents like this.
Absolutely talk to him about it. It may have been a mental breakdown, it may or may not have been his ADD, or maybe he's having some problems of his own. Only talking to HIM will tell.
Don't give up. It sounds like you really love him, and you shouldn't let one incident ruin that love.
On the flip side, don't keep giving him the benefit of the doubt if he keeps doing things like that. Trust your gut.
Good luck, love.
If you work it out with him, he MUST agree to never do anything that could bring harm to you again. Plain and simple, if he acts impulsively and puts you in danger you then must break off the relationship and have nothing more to do with him.
In order to keep himself level, he should seek counseling and treatment for his condition. Don't accept less. He could have killed you both.
either he didn't take his meds or is taking some other drugs- illegal ones.
ADD would not cause this behavior unless something triggered it such as anger, frustration-
Something small such as a person in the car in front of him getting in his way or ticking him off could trigger this behavior.
I would suggest that if he put your life at risk without consideration which he obviously did- I would back off and try to put your guard up, first loves are hard to break free from- my concern would be if you and he stay together and have kids, I would not only have concern for you, but your children.
First loves don't truly last - too much experience is still needed in your life, I had numerous relationships after my first love and married when I was in my late 20's. If not for the experiences with the men prior, I would not be who I am today- you need to explore and not be tied down at a young age. I was from age 13 to 16 when my first love and I decided to go seperate ways- and you will survive without him, believe me, you may not think so but you will, and you will move on to better things along the way.
Don't let him bring you down with him- we can't change people, only how we choose to accept it or react to it.
Just be safe, and try to spend some time away from him and truly think about your life, what you want and really what you deserve. I think you deserve better, I just hope you realize this too.
My ex-husband put my life in danger several times. I got caught in a PTO of a tractor because he told me to stand too close to it. Get rid of him. Your going to have a roller coaster affair and if you get out now you won't waste your entire life on him. How could he care for you if he doesn't care for himself. You sound like somebody deserves you that can give you the same dedication you are giving him! And, have you thought about the future with kids. Bale out!
If you love him and he loves you get him to go back to the doc and back on his meds. If he won't or doesn't then you really have to think of yourself and your future!!
I think everyone has a little add. Not taking your meds doesn't make you a jerk. I'd think twice about getting in the car with him. It could be something besides add. Jennifer
I would definately set some boundaries with him Not talking to him won't help him, and it doesn't leave any hope for the relationship. Tell him that you did not appreciate what he did and he needs to get back on his meds and see his Dr. Honestly, his behavior sounded more like a manic episode than ADD, but of course I cannot diagnose. You might want to note if all of his behavior is out of character b/c that could be a sign of a serious problem. A lot of time bipolar and ADD are intermingled or confused for each other. Also bipolar tends to surface in late adolescene and early adulthood. My first manic episode was 17 and I did all kinds of risky things. Also be firm with him. Let him know that he cannot put your life in danger and you will not be wiht him if he does. Stick to it. You are too important to lose your life over him.
That does not appear to be a symptom of ADD. I think your boyfriend has some other issues that he is ignoring or lying to you about.
madison he has anger in him that is starting to surface slowly and you may not have been aware of it ...he is not a child that has ADD he is able to drive and has put you in danger and it will happen again think for while about his past actions sometimes love blind us don't get in a car with him and he needs to grow up and you need to be safe ...bless you kara
didn't you just ask this question in a different section? douche
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